INFJ personality

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact. They tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while INFJs can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.

INFJINFJs indeed share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.



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Jul 17, 2014 13:42:43
I never felt like i quite fitted in, but after reading this i realized it was a scarily accurate description of me, although i am more introverted than anyone i've met, and feel a bit more shy than the description here. I've always wanted to make a difference, and the people who get me the most usually share my musical or mathematical passion.
Jul 16, 2014 19:42:56
Wow. I always felt like the odd one out, too. I mean everywhere, not just my family. They're all loud opinionated extroverts and there I was, the quiet thinker and observer, only throwing my two cents in when it really mattered to me. It tended to make most of them think I was stupid, because I wasn't like them. One of my aunts was the only one to appreciate my observation ways, and nicknamed me Owl. At my grandmother's funeral she said she always knew there was way more going on in my head than was coming out of my mouth.
I love to write, and have been told by a NY Times best-selling author (who is my mentor) I have a genuine gift. He prodded me into starting my own blog, and has promissed to help me publish and promote my book when I meet the criteria he's set for that to happen.
I have a very social husband, kids and friends, who really don't understand my need at times for decompression after social situations. I've tried to explain it to them, but they think I'm just amusing myself with video games instead of getting something else done. Thank you for affirming that downtime need! Now I just need to find a way to communicate it better to them . . . .
Jul 16, 2014 04:10:56
quirky, creative, clever, care.. INFJ :)
Jul 13, 2014 18:18:46
Amazing! always felt like the odd one out in my family. Always felt I was too much or not enough. Have felt utterly misunderstood my whole life. At school & Nursing College was either loved or despised by teachers/tutors. Have had many people jealous/envious of me which hurt because I used to think, why do they want to be me? I'm so messed up?!! My passion & zeal is often taken as anger which is frustrating. Feel as if most of my life I've been pretending to be someone I am absolutely NOT but that's the way everyone wants me to be as then I am manageable!! Went to spend 10 days with my estranged father whom I hadn't seen for 17 yrs.. Sadly, he had developed Alzheimer's. The days were glorious ones of napping & reading, going for long silent walks & listening to classical music. We spent hours together in silence! No forced conversation yet totally at ease. He made more sense to me than my chaotic mother & brother.. I found some identity & restoration & hope. I have been learning to love & accept myself for being different. Having taken the test several times on different sites to make sure, it comes up as INFJ every time . I am beginning to make sense to myself!!! Actually I think I'm The Shizzerz!!!
Jul 12, 2014 07:10:12
I've done this test a lot and the result is always the same: INFJ. But I don't have a talent to write, not anymore.
Can this personality still suits me?