INFJ personality

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats (NF), they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.

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INFJ personalityINFJs indeed share a very unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extroverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Famous INFJs:

Martin Luther King
Nelson Mandela
Mother Teresa
Nicole Kidman
Jimmy Carter
Mel Gibson
“James Wilson” from House M.D.
Strengths & Weaknesses


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Sep 19, 2014 19:04:45
INFJs help--is my friend an INFJ?
Here's what she's like:
She's very intelligent. She's good at a wide variety of subjects. She studies hard and likes to be prepared for tests.
She talks quietly, but around people she knows well, she talks a lot. When we're in the car together, I get in very few words. It's mostly her either giving me tips on driving (she's never seen me drive, and she only recently got her license), talking (and talking and talking) about a movie she likes and the underlying messages and deep morals, or discussing recent experiences with someone we both know, or how she wishes to do better in some area of her life. It's all very quiet, thoughtful, and reflective. Really, "reflective" sums her up quite nicely. Her emotions register very easily on her face, and certain negative experiences can get her down so much it surprises even her. She seems to dislike empty conversation, and clearly admires people who push the conversation deeper. She is always eager to help, to the extent that I'm afraid to ask any favor of her since she won't say if it's an inconvenience, just accept the request graciously. She is gracious in most areas, and when other people do things that drive me crazy, like not following through with something or being rude, she shrugs it off so well it's amazing. This could be a sign of good character, or maybe it's that despite her intelligence she's a bit oblivious to her surroundings sometimes--sometimes I try to add a comment to one of her monologues, and she ignores it and goes right on talking. It's annoying, but I'm used to it now. She is talented at music, and plays the piano when she needs emotional release. However, she also understands topics relating to math and science very well.
Does this sound like an INFJ to you? If not, what type do you suppose she is? I'm an INTJ, by the way.
Melody Rose
Sep 18, 2014 18:33:18
They got just about spot on with me. It is a little creepy. But i'm glad to know i'm not alone.
Sep 18, 2014 17:20:24
Now I understand why people don't understand me. This is so cool and real.
Sep 18, 2014 12:51:44
Sep 15, 2014 20:14:02
This is me. Thank God someone, somewhere understands..