INFJ Strengths and Weaknesses

INFJ Strengths

INFJ strengths
  • Creative – Combining a vivid imagination with a strong sense of compassion, INFJs use their creativity to resolve not technical challenges, but human ones. People with the INFJ personality type enjoy finding the perfect solution for someone they care about, and this strength makes them excellent counselors and advisors.
  • Insightful – Seeing through dishonesty and disingenuous motives, INFJs step past manipulation and sales tactics and into a more honest discussion. INFJs see how people and events are connected, and are able to use that insight to get to the heart of the matter.
  • Inspiring and Convincing – Speaking in human terms, not technical, INFJs have a fluid, inspirational writing style that appeals to the inner idealist in their audience. INFJs can even be astonishingly good orators, speaking with warmth and passion, if they are proud of what they are speaking for.
  • Decisive – Their creativity, insight and inspiration are able to have a real impact on the world, as INFJs are able to follow through on their ideas with conviction, willpower, and the planning necessary to see complex projects through to the end. INFJs don’t just see the way things ought to be, they act on those insights.
  • Determined and Passionate – When INFJs come to believe that something is important, they pursue that goal with a conviction and energy that can catch even their friends and loved ones off guard. INFJs will rock the boat if they have to, something not everyone likes to see, but their passion for their chosen cause is an inseparable part of their personality.
  • Altruistic – These strengths are used for good. INFJs have strong beliefs and take the actions that they do not because they are trying to advance themselves, but because they are trying to advance an idea that they truly believe will make the world a better place.

INFJ Weaknesses

INFJ weaknesses
  • Sensitive – When someone challenges or criticizes INFJs’ principles or values, they are likely to receive an alarmingly strong response. People with the INFJ personality type are highly vulnerable to criticism and conflict, and questioning their motives is the quickest way to their bad side.
  • Extremely Private – INFJs tend to present themselves as the culmination of an idea. This is partly because they believe in this idea, but also because INFJs are extremely private when it comes to their personal lives, using this image to keep themselves from having to truly open up, even to close friends. Trusting a new friend can be even more challenging for INFJs.
  • Perfectionistic – INFJs are all but defined by their pursuit of ideals. While this is a wonderful quality in many ways, an ideal situation is not always possible – in politics, in business, in romance – and INFJs too often drop or ignore healthy and productive situations and relationships, always believing there might be a better option down the road.
  • Always Need to Have a Cause – INFJs get so caught up in the passion of their pursuits that any of the cumbersome administrative or maintenance work that comes between them and the ideal they see on the horizon is deeply unwelcome. INFJs like to know that they are taking concrete steps towards their goals, and if routine tasks feel like they are getting in the way, or worse yet, there is no goal at all, they will feel restless and disappointed.
  • Can Burn Out Easily – Their passion, poor patience for routine maintenance, tendency to present themselves as an ideal, and extreme privacy tend to leave INFJs with few options for letting off steam. People with this personality type are likely to exhaust themselves in short order if they don’t find a way to balance their ideals with the realities of day-to-day living.
Yuzu
5 years ago
I'm an INFP, but my closest, dearest and most precious friend is an INFJ and I feel that I understand her VERY well. For all of you INFJs, I seriously recommend trying to find an INFP friend, if you don't already have one. It seems like a wonderful best friend match. :) (At least, it is for my best friend and I. <3)
Crystal
5 years ago
I am also an INFJ and my best friend is an INFP - I love her rational intuitive compassionate mind and her ability to really be able to perceive what's really going on beyond the surface. : ) We have been best friends for years and it's wonderful.
INTJ girl
5 years ago
I'm an INFJ: When I was 10 years old, or possibly younger, many adults often confided personal information to me; I felt what they felt and I gave the best advice I could. I was always called an "old soul" or the "anti-teenager" due to being able to not let myself go. I couldn't just "party now and forget later" because later would always be on my mind. I am constantly living in my head. I have empowering thoughts and abstract solutions, but when I try to discuss them, it comes out as a disorganized mess. This kills me when writing college essays. But when I do get my point across, people genuinely have emotional thoughts about the subject. I'm alone for most of the time, but I enjoy it. I think about life and how to prepare. I'm outgoing in a professional setting, but I lack the ability to sound "informal". It's almost impossible for me to fully relax when I know something isn't right. I sacrifice my time when someone needs it, whether it a stranger or a friend. Sometimes I can feel emotions from other people, and I confuse them for my own. It's hard to differentiate between the two. I put effort into everything I do, and I expect the reflection to show my effort. When I spend weeks studying for a test, I expect a good grade. When I don't make the grade, I cry or get really frustrated. However, when I do make a good grade, I don't take the time to appreciate it. I love researching people and theories! It catches my interest to see more from another persons point of view. I don't judge people by race, or religion, or sexuality because I constantly see from everyones side. I study other religions, and I've recently picked up a new foreign language; different cultures excite me! I'm great with money and budgets! I have a firm control over my impulses, and only spend when needed. When looking for a guy, I look for intellect rather than looks. I enjoy long emotional talks and trying to get to the bottom of things. When there is something wrong in a relationship, I would like to say how I feel, but it doesn't come out right. I have a high sex drive, but it only appears to the people I'm emotionally attached with...which takes many, many years. (Sorry for the long wall of text >.< and congratz to anyone who actually read all of that. I know I used 'I' too much. It's just the easiest way to express myself right now. Thanks for reading!)
jmclements
5 years ago
I will tell you that not all of us are quiet. I am not. I am an introvert, but that does not mean quiet. I actually come off quite extraverted to those who do not know me well. They would never believe it. The thing is, yes I can be quiet. Or I can talk your ear off . I like to listen as much as I like to talk . Introverts are not all quiet. I wish people would stop putting that in the description. Infj's are quiet when they pause and start taking things in consciously. I tend to use my intuition and empathatic abilities so much that it is exhausting to be around large groups of people for too long. Plus , i have to meditate and think and analyze everything over, and I have so many ideas bouncing around in my head, theories I entertain , and so i tend to withdrawl because there are not many others who see things the way I do and are not interested or do not hold the same morals and values . When I am around someone who is similar to me I talk quite a bit. I am adhd though. Also , Infj's have very good money handeling skills and budgeting, or at least i do, so i really dont like that you put that broad generalization in the article. . I also withdrawl and fall off the planet when pondering a major decision, after a period of time where i "spent" all my stored up energy ... After a big move i tend to retreat and rest to save up more energy force.... when someone hurts my feelings i close myself off and find the nearest rock to hide under to lick my wounds. At the end of a long day I need an extended period of downtime to myself , by myself to think, relax, read, listen to music things like that... Thats how I tend to retreat into my hermit crab shell. Even though I tend to receive attention, it makes me uncomfortable....i lose energy by being around others , but that doesnt man i dont enjoy talkinG..ALOT... I think alot, so I talk alot. I monitor who i share my thoughts to and what thoughts l allow a person to know about though, some things people just dont need to know... Its not their business. Its personal.
Robin
5 years ago
I think all INFJs would agree with you that we are mistaken for extroverts constantly by other people. This website is the best I've seen at describing that exact phenomenon. Other sites I've read say that we are the most extroverted of the Introvert types. Also, this site notes on one of the pages that we sometimes are not good at taking the necessary downtime we need to recuperate. That is so true for me and I was glad to read that assessment. I have a perfect example in my own life that illustrates that. When I was in high school, I would start every school year off getting involved in lots of activities I was interested in and making tons of friends in doing so. I was basically "popular". But then by about 6 weeks in I would crash and burn. I still did the avtivities, but basically withdrew from the maddening crowds. I just couldnt't keep it up. This happened to me year after year all 4 years. And I used to question how that was possible when all anyone ever wants to be in school is popular. (if you disagree with that statement, then you may still be in denial - lol). Now, I get it. It is my introvert side that only wants to stay close with a couple of people. Having lots of shallow friendships that are fun but take up precious time and add no meaning are just a drain on my energy. We INFJs definitely have to be conscious of our need to recharge alone or we will crash and burn. I think looking at introversion/extroversion through the lens of how one is energized (with people or alone) is more appropriate than labelling introverts "quiet".
Io
5 years ago
Just wanted to give you props for the assessment you posted above: "I tend to use my intuition and empathetic abilities so much that it is exhausting to be around large groups of people for too long" I couldn't have put it better myself. That's probably why it resonated so much with me. But that's why alone time is so essential for us. We're energised by being alone and drained (though not in a bad way, I find I like putting all my thoughts/theories and intuitiveness to help advise and support those around me) by being around people. I wholeheartedly agree with INFJ's not being quiet. I know I'm an introvert and sometimes I'm ready to talk a lot. Other times I don't want others to know what's going on in my head. Not because what's in there is scary, but because I know most people will not understand. I've found that most people don't find it nearly half as engaging as I do - pondering theories, cause and effect, why someone is the way they are, reasons why the world isn't perfect etc.
Kate
5 years ago
I notice another weakness in myself and my mother (both INFJ). Our great communication skills is severely limited to only the MOST trusted of our friends/family, and even then it can be sketchy and hard to understand unless written. My mother is developing much better skills with age, and with a closer bond with her husband. I have never met anyone else with this problem aside from my mother. The internal conversation you can have that sounds so perfect... And then you open your mouth and seemingly gibberish is all that comes out. Until its written, your thoughts and opinions only make sense to you.
Chelle
5 years ago
I too struggle with verbal communication. The concise words in my head are often not the same words that make it out of my mouth. In addition, (as a general rule) I don't tell anyone anything I'm not ok with everyone knowing. Therefore, I tend to keep most people on a need to know level of communication. I journal to prevent emotional overloaded. I start ever entry with "Dear HP," and write as if I am writing a letter to someone.
Robin
5 years ago
Oh my gosh, this is so true for me too! I have only recently come to realuze this lbecause of texting of all things! I am a mega texter. My texts are basically like the notes I used to write in school. (I'm 42 now btw) I express myself well and am able to articulate things that I have difficulty saying out load - writing my feelings helps me to reorganize them to make sense to others... Well, lately, I have needed to text a LOT, so I tried using hands free voice to text to save time. It's hilarious. I literally can't do it. I press record and my mind goes blank or the text decoder has no idea what I'm saying. I had never realized that I literally NEED to write to express myself. I guess since writing is a way of thinking in an introverted way... So interesting!! I'm definitely going to start writing more - especially as a way to release all of the stress I introvert that ends up making my body ill.
Sarah
4 years ago
I never knew there were people out there just like me! I am an INFJ, completely. I took this test in high school, but no one bothered to tell me that my personality type was rare, or that it really meant anything at all. I have never been able to communicate well verbally, but my writing has always been clear as a bell. It feels like my brain works faster than my mouth does, and I end up tripping over my words. If I have a point that I have to get across, I HAVE to write it down, or it won't make any sense. I also have the issues with indecision. I can agonize for hours over what movie to watch or where to eat lunch, because I can instinctively see all the possibilities and consequences of each minor decision I make. Perhaps that's why I'm 26 and still don't have a college degree. Hmm...
Brooklynn
4 years ago
Wow this is SOO true about me. Lately in order to even faintly understand everything going on in my heart, I've had to write all my feelings and process them that way.
George
5 years ago
INFJ simply needs someone that is an astute listener who is good at framing questions so the INFJ can feel the words needed for the feelings. The words lead the INFJ out of the judgment that no one understands. That judgment is a prison and someone can lead us out but they are few and far between. With someone to do that we become more fluently vocal with our own needs which then opens up the possibilities for more people to be able to do that for us.
Jacqueline
5 years ago
Yes! I have often told people that I need a good sounding board in order to further articulate what is really going on. I don't voice my thoughts and concerns to receive advice and it is irksome when I get unwarranted advice.
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