INFJ Strengths and Weaknesses

INFJ Strengths

INFJ strengths
  • Creative – Combining a vivid imagination with a strong sense of compassion, INFJs use their creativity to resolve not technical challenges, but human ones. People with the INFJ personality type enjoy finding the perfect solution for someone they care about, and this strength makes them excellent counselors and advisors.
  • Insightful – Seeing through dishonesty and disingenuous motives, INFJs step past manipulation and sales tactics and into a more honest discussion. INFJs see how people and events are connected, and are able to use that insight to get to the heart of the matter.
  • Inspiring and Convincing – Speaking in human terms, not technical, INFJs have a fluid, inspirational writing style that appeals to the inner idealist in their audience. INFJs can even be astonishingly good orators, speaking with warmth and passion, if they are proud of what they are speaking for.
  • Decisive – Their creativity, insight and inspiration are able to have a real impact on the world, as INFJs are able to follow through on their ideas with conviction, willpower, and the planning necessary to see complex projects through to the end. INFJs don’t just see the way things ought to be, they act on those insights.
  • Determined and Passionate – When INFJs come to believe that something is important, they pursue that goal with a conviction and energy that can catch even their friends and loved ones off guard. INFJs will rock the boat if they have to, something not everyone likes to see, but their passion for their chosen cause is an inseparable part of their personality.
  • Altruistic – These strengths are used for good. INFJs have strong beliefs and take the actions that they do not because they are trying to advance themselves, but because they are trying to advance an idea that they truly believe will make the world a better place.

INFJ Weaknesses

INFJ weaknesses
  • Sensitive – When someone challenges or criticizes INFJs’ principles or values, they are likely to receive an alarmingly strong response. People with the INFJ personality type are highly vulnerable to criticism and conflict, and questioning their motives is the quickest way to their bad side.
  • Extremely Private – INFJs tend to present themselves as the culmination of an idea. This is partly because they believe in this idea, but also because INFJs are extremely private when it comes to their personal lives, using this image to keep themselves from having to truly open up, even to close friends. Trusting a new friend can be even more challenging for INFJs.
  • Perfectionistic – INFJs are all but defined by their pursuit of ideals. While this is a wonderful quality in many ways, an ideal situation is not always possible – in politics, in business, in romance – and INFJs too often drop or ignore healthy and productive situations and relationships, always believing there might be a better option down the road.
  • Always Need to Have a Cause – INFJs get so caught up in the passion of their pursuits that any of the cumbersome administrative or maintenance work that comes between them and the ideal they see on the horizon is deeply unwelcome. INFJs like to know that they are taking concrete steps towards their goals, and if routine tasks feel like they are getting in the way, or worse yet, there is no goal at all, they will feel restless and disappointed.
  • Can Burn Out Easily – Their passion, poor patience for routine maintenance, tendency to present themselves as an ideal, and extreme privacy tend to leave INFJs with few options for letting off steam. People with this personality type are likely to exhaust themselves in short order if they don’t find a way to balance their ideals with the realities of day-to-day living.
5 years ago
This is right on for my personality.
5 years ago
I completely agree with this list. Especially with one of my biggest flaw being "always needs a cause". It seems silly but that's why I struggle with school and work, I don't see a 'cause' for them and it sucks. Still working on it though! :)
5 years ago
INFJ describes me 100%! I just cannot agree with what it says as far as romantic compatibility. ENTP's are so competitive and insensitive. ENTP's "do best with emotionally resilent people". That is sooo NOT INFJ's. How in the world is that "compatible"? I know quite a few ENTP's, and quite frankly, they are the personality types that hack me off the most. ;-)
5 years ago
It is uncanny how the INFJ fits me. I am amazed that more people arent this personality type. Also I am private but OPEN too. The only reason I have become so private is that my open and detailed expressing from my feeling self, is so descriptive, it freaks people out. When I express myself, It isnt rote, ever! They dont understand me but I feel like it is so simple. So as i have gotten older, I do alot more listening and waIt for a morsel or two when I can receive the same. I really long to be heard with the same compassion and interest as i listen to others. Nice to hear from other INFJs Thanks
4 years ago
Mary! Thank you for writing here. "Also I am private but OPEN too. The only reason I have become so private is that my open and detailed expressing from my feeling self, is so descriptive, it freaks people out. When I express myself, It isnt rote, ever!" I couldn't relate more. It sometimes depresses me that others do not desire to know more about life. I've always appreciated The Hebrew word for "know" or "to know" is not a stand-offish, read about in a book knowledge. The Bible describes, "Adam knew his wife Eve." in this context "know" isn't strictly sexual, but rather an intimate expression of dedicating and engaging oneself to express love and affection. And in engaging in any kind of relationship with another person, I believe that we experience a depth of sincere care, curiosity, and empathy that scares many people. Of course, I struggle a lot with taking other's reactions or behaviors personally after I share a thought or insight. Like just now. But for some reason I keep persisting to be expressive because I can't help it. I've had to learn and will still be learning in years to come about how to be okay with who I am based on my need for speaking my heart and strong convictions, beliefs, opinions?- even when it seems weird or too dramatic for people and scares them away! I can choose to say to myself,"They don't like me!" Well, that doesn't work out well for me and I become critical and analytic. I can choose to say to myself..."that's too bad that they cannot engage on that level. I truly believe that they are missing out and I'm sad because I wanted to know them so I'm missing out too." Hence the perfectionism (for me). Which really seems like a form of people pleasing now that I think about it. :) OR I can choose to let go and not let other's actions or reactions make me feel bad. I am not defined by what others think or say about me. Mary, you are wise in saying that you listen more. That's beautiful and truly unselfish. I've been working on it. I love helping people find out and talk about what their heart is saying. It blesses others because listening is a catalyst for others to feel safe to share-really share- their own experiences. They've probably had a lot of judgment and criticism in their life so they are afraid to share their experiences or what they "know". Providing a space for someone to be themselves is so precious. AND..yayy...someone may now give more empathy too because they experienced it. Emotional intelligence is nurtured and multiplied and a dream has just been realized. I just LOVE that you said, "I'm amazed that more people aren't this personality type." Yes. It's intensely disappointing to find out that more people don't really want to know how you are when they ask, "How are YOU?" They really don't. I just can't fathom asking without really wanting to know. Some people just aren't like this and they experience life in a completely different way. I just love it when someone says that they have never shared that before, or "wow, you really get it and that helped me." Sometimes I find out years later that I made a positive impact on someone's life. They will tell me what I said and I am sometimes really surprised though proud of myself (new concept to feel proud) and I exclaim to myself or out loud, "I SAID THAT?!" Of course, I'm really happy and feel honored that something I did (listen) or said helped them experience...something. They heard my heart and related it to their own. They had strong FEELINGS about something. And strangely, it seems to us that facing and experiencing feelings whether good or bad on a different level, isn't an everyday experience for most people. In fact most people hate it. Who wants to face their fear, for example. Has anyone ever had a close friend try to push you away and thought that you wouldn't notice? WOW. THat's hilarious. I say hilarious because it's moments like that when I realize I am soo different and I have to laugh OR CRY that they don't know me at all and I didn't know them. I don't think other's are bad...not at all. Just really really different. And I can't understand why they do what they do, hence the "J" having to make sense of the world. Sometimes I envy their ability to not feel or read emotions immediately and so intensely. OR, have you had a close friend who shares life in a similar way as you and you really support each other, but one day they push you away while they're going through a tough time? Or how about when YOU are going through a tough time?Do you do this? I know I have. It's Because they know that they can't be fake around you, they purposefully avoid contact sometimes even knowing it hurts you, but will do it anyway since they are desperate to avoid experiencing negative emotions. Even if they really do care about you- they just cut off the relationship just to avoid their own pain...and avoid "knowing" their true self or yours.
5 years ago
I recently discovered I'm an INFJ, and its such a relief to discover other people like me, I can feel so isolated and depressed at times. Right now I'm discovering my vision, which is the only thing that I can derive real joy out of.
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