INFJ Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ romantic relationships

Getting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This for Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

2 years ago
Always thought I was the odd-ball in a family of extroverts because I would rather be quiet and listen. Thanks for putting some clarity to it.
2 years ago
Wow my Best friend is really scared on how this is so close to him lol!
3 years ago
I'm in my last marriage of in-authenticity and it's killing me. Why can't I ever choose someone who is emotionally available and stable, who wants intimacy and is willing to work at making a marriage work? We're separated now which is something I don't want. I wanted to work out our problems so we could have depth to our marriage, but my husband is afraid of being in-depth. Reading this helped me to see that I am not alone and although I have strengths, my weaknesses are keeping me from having a thriving marriage.
2 years ago
I always have a hard time finding men who are authentic as well. It sucks, but at least I know I'm not crazy lol.
2 years ago
You're not alone. We are here for you.
5 months ago
Other people will probably not be able to love like our type. It is because most dont feel it like we do. I too am going through a divorce after 10 years with a woman that I would rather not. But I realize she will never understand words like unconditional love, til death do us part, or even love. And now I understand a little better. She doesn't feel it the same. Its a bunch of words and little emotion to her. So yeah it's a curse as well. But dont give up because once you find the one, it will be worth a thousand failed attempts. Just cobble stones on the road to where your going.
Lauren Kaunra
3 years ago
All of these things are true about me, I've found that one person I take seriously in my relashonship. I'm not sure what I'll do if we ever part ways.....I love her too much to lose her. I hope it lasts forever. But most of the time nothing lasts forever, sadly.
3 years ago
As an Infj I must say I have the best husband in the world who happens to be Entp! ;) I think that type is amazing just make sure they have values that align with yours. Mine has a heart of Gold I can't thank God enough for bringing him into my life. (PS-we had some DIFFICULT hurdles after we became serious but since we never gave up on each other we are now in heaven).
3 years ago
That is such good news! Never giving up means love.
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