INFJ Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INFJs take the process of finding a partner seriously. Not ones for casual encounters, people with the INFJ personality type instead look for depth and meaning in their relationships. INFJs will take the time necessary to find someone they truly connect with – once they’ve found that someone, their relationships will reach a level of depth and sincerity that most people can only dream of.

INFJ romantic relationships

Getting to that point can sometimes be a challenge for potential partners, especially if they are the impatient type, as INFJs are often perfectionistic and picky. People with this personality type aren’t easily talked into something they don’t want, and if someone doesn’t pick up on that, it’s a trespass that is unlikely to be forgiven, particularly in the early stages of dating. Even worse is if a suitor tries to resort to manipulation or lying, as INFJs will see right through it, and if there’s anything they have a poor tolerance for in a relationship, it is inauthenticity.

Is This for Real?

One of the things INFJs find most important is establishing genuine, deep connections with the people they care about.

INFJs will go out of their way to seek out people who share their desire for authenticity, and out of their way to avoid those who don’t, especially when looking for a partner. All that being said, INFJs often have the advantage of desirability – they are warm, friendly, caring and insightful, seeing past facades and the obvious to understand others’ thoughts and emotions.

INFJs are enthusiastic in their relationships, and there is a sense of wisdom behind their spontaneity, allowing them to pleasantly surprise their partners again and again. INFJs aren’t afraid to show their love, and they feel it unconditionally, creating a depth to the relationship that can hardly be described in conventional terms. Relationships with INFJs are not for the uncommitted or the shallow.

When it comes to intimacy, INFJs look for a connection that goes beyond the physical, embracing the emotional and even spiritual connection they have with their partner. People with the INFJ personality type are passionate partners, and see intimacy as a way to express their love and to make their partners happy. INFJs cherish not just the act of being in a relationship, but what it means to become one with another person, in mind, body and soul.

5 years ago
Yes..... all that is vVeRry true!!! I am an INFJ too and i have such a hard time making friends.... why does everyone prefer to be friends with extroverts???? I wish i knew more people who were like me :( I am quiet.... so people ignore me. I love being infj though.... i feel comfortable in my own shoes.... i just wish others would be more understanding and actualy try to get to know us more and accept us too.
5 years ago
I'm an INFJ and my boyfriend is an ENFJ. I was a writer. He was an actor. I was quiet. He was loud. I was determined to do well in school. He wanted to do well in school so I would notice him. I took a year and a half of dating before I could say 'I love you.' He loved me for a year and a half before we started dating. I had only five very close friends. He was friends with everyone. If you walked into my room, you would see my favourite movie characters on my wall, (Go Dobby and Gollum!) a bookshelf full of books, stacks of instruments and music, and lots of half-finished projects and long lists. If you walked into his room, you would see lots of Harry Potter related stuff, pages and pages of scripts to be memorized, and walls papered from top to bottom with pictures of his friends, family, and us, of course. The best thing a friend of mine ever said to me was that seeing me and him together 'restored her faith in love.' Being an INFJ isn't always easy. But it's well worth it.
5 years ago
This test was right on target!
5 years ago
This is very much me, I was outcast in school, and never fit in, except when i practiced my talent music and acting. In real life, jobs seems to either be making me ill, and the only time I feel free is when I am on stage, even though I hate the crowds. Very odd, but very much me
5 years ago
It is so interesting to read about these traits because many of them are inherent in me. Being a natural empath is powerful and complicated. I don't feel isolated as INFJ, people appreciate my gentle and thoughtful nature. I realize my personality is rare but reading about it is uncanny ( because there are more people out there like me). We all have our beautiful characteristics and it is important not to box ourselves into one way of seeing things.
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