People with the ISTJ personality type (Logisticians) are not spontaneous in their friendships. They are not talkative or particularly playful in their affection. What ISTJ friends are is loyal, trustworthy, honorable, and dependable. Others may come and go with the ups and downs of life, but ISTJ personalities stay by their friends’ sides no matter what, with a deepness of commitment that other types may not even believe is possible.
The Gift of Loyalty
ISTJs are a very methodical personality type, so their loyalty isn’t given away lightly. Often slow to make friends, these personalities usually end up with a smaller circle. But they promise to show up for the people in their circle, and their promises are not easily broken.
Expressing emotional affection isn’t one of ISTJ personalities’ stronger skills, but they nevertheless find ways to show it. As Socrates said, “To be is to do,” and ISTJs’ follow-through – their willingness to take action as a show of support – stands in for their words.
But all of this sounds terribly somber, and indeed it only shows one side of this nuanced personality type and their approach to their friendships. The other side knows how to stop being quite so serious, and especially in the company of joyful and talkative friends, ISTJ personalities enjoy relaxing and having fun with a good discussion about work, life, and current events.
People with this personality type don’t like conflict, and this applies to how they select their friends as well. Seeking out friends with similar principles and opinions, ISTJs most often befriend people who are likely to share their perspective and world vision. While they are unlikely to become friends with substantially different personalities – it simply takes too much energy to bridge the communication gap – ISTJs still recognize and appreciate others’ strengths and qualities.
In fact, as if to prove the point, ISTJs do sometimes become friends with people who are more spontaneous and imaginative. These are very much relationships built not on mutual understanding but out of respect for their mutual differences. ISTJ personalities will happily marvel at other people’s breadth of thought, being very much in tune with their own intelligence, while they themselves are regularly admired for their realism and dependability – something that others are often hard-pressed to find. Knowledge, as always, is the great equalizer.