ISTJ Friends

ISTJ friends are not spontaneous. They are not talkative, or particularly playful in their affection. What ISTJ friends are is loyal, trustworthy, honorable and dependable. Others may come and go with the ups and downs of life, but ISTJs stay by their friends’ sides no matter what, with a deepness of commitment that other types may not even believe is possible.

True Friendship Is a Plant of Slow Growth

ISTJs are a very methodical personality type, and this loyalty isn’t given away lightly. Often slow to make friends, ISTJs usually end up with a smaller circle, but they consider that circle to represent a promise to be there for the people they care about, and ISTJs’ promises are not easily broken.

ISTJ friends

Expressing emotional affection isn’t one of ISTJs’ stronger skills, but they nevertheless find ways to show it. As Socrates said, "To be is to do", and ISTJs’ follow-through, their willingness to take action as a show of support, stands in for their words.

These actions convey a sensitivity that many fail to see, but it is a quality that ISTJs’ friends come to admire and depend on in the long years of their friendships.

But all of this sounds terribly serious, and indeed it only shows the one side of ISTJs and their approach to their friendships. The other side knows how to stop being quite so staid, and especially in the company of joyful and talkative Extraverts (E), ISTJs enjoy relaxing and having fun with a good discussion about work, life, and current events.

People with the ISTJ personality type don’t like conflict, and this applies to how they select their friends as well. Seeking out friends with similar principles and opinions, ISTJs most often befriend other Sentinels, who are likely to share their perspective and world vision. While they are unlikely to become friends with substantially different types – it simply takes too much energy to bridge the communication gap – ISTJ personalities still recognize and appreciate others’ strengths and qualities.

Knowledge Is the Surest Basis of Happiness

In fact, as if to prove the point, ISTJs almost always have at least one Intuitive (N) friend in their inner circle, despite the disconnect the two perspectives bring. These are very much relationships built not on mutual understanding, but out of respect for their mutual differences. ISTJs marvel at Intuitives’ breadth of thought, being very much in tune with their own intelligence, while Intuitives admire ISTJs’ realism and dependability, something they are often hard-pressed to find in themselves. Knowledge, as always, is the great equalizer.

1 year ago
I wish I had seen this article years ago... I personally wouldn't have butted heads with my ISTJ brother so much if I had read this years ago as I personally am an INTP, and I've never appreciated his attempts for structure, but now I feel like I understand him at least a tiny bit better.
Mr. D
4 years ago
I have to agree with Marie on this one. People have to show and prove to get the title of friend, significant other, etc... Also, like the NT I have an issue with authority and My problem solving skills are unorthodox so I'm thinking that maybe I have a little bit of that in Myself as well. Other than that, this pretty much sums Me up.
4 years ago
Well most of the points mentioned above are accurate except one that i have 4 people whom i value a lot and i will be flexible if the situation demands it.Also i am willing to expend energy and bridge the differences if it means i can get more closer to those 4 friends of mine.
4 years ago
I've gotta agree with this, though not completely. I tend to keep the friends that are willing to stay and the longer they stay, the closer they are to me. Before I even consider someone to be an actual friend, they have to show that they are worth the effort of sustaining such a tie. I don't exactly have to have the same views as they do as I am quiet empathetic. I'm able to understand someone else's views very easily without compromising my own.
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