ISFJ Friends

Given how generous ISFJs are with their warm praise and support, it’s not surprising that others enjoy their company enough to call them friends. The challenge is to be considered a friend back – people with the ISFJ personality type are shy and a little protective of themselves, but they also need to be able to connect on a deeper emotional level. It makes sense then that most of ISFJs’ friends are made not by random encounters on a wild night out, but through comfortable and consistent contact, as in class or in the workplace where they have the time to get to know each other little by little.

A lot of what establishes and deepens ISFJs’ friendships is the mutual support, advice and reassurance that the friends give each other.

ISFJs need a lot of positive feedback, and admitting this need certainly shows vulnerability, but if that vulnerability is well handled, it creates the deep bonds that ISFJ personalities look for. If badly handled or not reciprocated, it’s hard to see the burgeoning friendship surviving without quite a bit of extra effort.

ISFJ friends

Yet, as their friendships develop, ISFJs’ sense of loyalty may push them to lean ever more on themselves to meet their friends’ needs, to the point of neglecting their own. ISFJs show this in a few ways, from going clearly out of their ways to stick to even trivial commitments, to simply not wanting to disagree or say no for fear of causing turbulence. More cynical types would call this naïve, and may even take advantage of ISFJs’ altruism – but these are hardly the type of people who could be called “friends”, and they have no business being discussed here.

To What Greater Inspiration and Counsel Can We Turn?

The real friends, those close inner circles, are the ones ISFJs truly cherish for their quality of character and quality of discussion. Strangely for an Observant (S) type, ISFJs almost always have an Intuitive (N) friend among them, despite the implicit communication barriers. It’s really not that odd though – these close friends are who ISFJs discuss deeper, more important matters with, and the quality of thought that Intuitives bring with them gives ISFJs’ an impression of limitless depth, mystery and wisdom.

People with the ISFJ personality type aren’t particularly picky about what personality types they make friends with, at least not initially, but because they prefer so strongly to avoid conflict and miscommunication, most of their friends end up being fairly similar types – fellow Introverted and Extraverted Feeling Sentinels (ISFJ and ESFJ). Thinking types are simply too critical, and Prospecting types too unreliable to really be able to provide, and receive, the kind of support and affinity ISFJs look for.

1 year ago
Unbelievable accuracy and insight for my personality! Thank you! Amazing!
Laila
2 years ago
Wow. This is so sad. I wouldn't say i have ever had problems making friends. I always have people swarm me and i pick very few who i know cant use me. Although i have learnt how to be mean along the line. I guess you could call it defence mechanism
Mary
2 years ago
I NEVER thought that getting drained or exhausted after social interaction was ever normal. I had felt for years like maybe I had to try harder at communicating with people for a long period of time. But in the attempt to not make the situation awkward or silent, I start throwing whatever stupid thought that's on my mind which makes me look silly in front of people and friends. I wish I'd found this test before... It makes want to embrace naturally who I am.
Matthew
2 years ago
Have these people been Following me?
Robbie
3 years ago
crazy accurate.. very impressed.
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