Friendships

People with the ESFJ personality type (Consuls) are very social, seeking large circles of friends and proving themselves more than willing to spend the time and energy necessary to maintain these relationships. Loyal and warm, they are known for standing by their friends no matter what and for providing a constant source of emotional support and encouragement. In general, ESFJs are very committed to the traditions of friendship, seeing the support that they offer as much as a responsibility as a pleasure.

ESFJ (Consul) friends
Highly sociable and energetic, ESFJ personalities bring an upbeat, vibrant dynamic to their social engagements. They naturally thrive in environments where they are surrounded by lots of people.

Popular and Protective

Doing everything they can to make sure their friends are happy, and being so comfortable with introductions and small talk, ESFJs are naturally popular in pretty much any environment. This is a dynamic that they genuinely enjoy, but they also expect their efforts and support to be reciprocated. There’s nothing quite as hurtful to people with the this personality type as finding out that a trusted friend is critical of their beliefs or habits – except maybe being told so in a direct confrontation.

ESFJ personalities have a tendency to believe that their friends can do no wrong, always stepping up to defend them regardless of circumstances, and they expect the same benefit of the doubt in return.

Even though they are generally popular among the people they meet, ESFJs can greatly expand their circle of friends if they learn to be more receptive to other perspectives rather than making snap judgments and conclusions. It’s important for them, as with anyone, to avoid being insulated from other viewpoints and opinions – to try to relate to and understand more people.

We’re All in This Together

All things considered, ESFJs are great at using their sensitivity to stay in tune with what motivates and drives their friends. While in their weaker moments they can sometimes use these observations to manipulate others, they are far more interested in maintaining strong relationships, and this is a great tool for doing so. As true altruists, ESFJ personalities almost always use their powers for good, encouraging and inspiring others.

By and large, ESFJs are pleasant and sincere people. Their energy and social intelligence win them many acquaintances and friends, and their support and dedication keep those friendships close and strong. With so much zest for life, a lack of company and dull moments are sure to be few and far between.