ENFP Friends

As friends, ENFPs are cheerful and supportive, always sharing and developing ideas, and staying open-minded, taking in others’ thoughts and feelings. This warmth and sincerity makes people with the ENFP personality type masters of drawing people out of their shells, and as a result they tend to have a huge circle of friends.

As with other relationships, ENFPs view their friendships as opportunities to experience another angle of the universe, and tend to imbue potential friendships with that weighty and idealistic quality.

An Exciting Adventure

More outgoing types will naturally gravitate towards them, but ENFPs will also go to great lengths and be surprisingly persistent in their efforts to get to know more reserved personalities. Their ability to tune into others and speak their language with that characteristic infectious enthusiasm helps them in this endeavor, and the allure of mystery that reserved types, especially Introverted Intuitives, bring to the table will keep ENFPs intrigued for years. These personality types may never be able to reciprocate the breadth of human interest that ENFPs present, but they do appreciate ENFPs’ efforts.

But ENFPs’ interest in others can be a double-edged sword – this pure idealism comes with certain expectations, and too often ENFPs hold their friends in an unrealistic light, expecting them to keep up with the constant flow of ideas and experiences that they consider integral to life. ENFPs put their whole hearts into their friendships, and it can come as a shock for them to find that their friends aren’t the flawless Titans that they believed them to be. Whether it’s simple social fatigue or a focus on the physical and the practical instead of the mystical, people with the ENFP personality type can find themselves disappointed by what they see as a lack of substance beneath the surface.

ENFP friends

ENFPs tend to get deeply involved in others’ lives, going to great lengths and efforts to be the selfless, caring and supportive people they are, and all the while forget to take care of themselves. Both in terms of basic needs like financial stability and rest, as well as more emotional needs like mutual understanding and reciprocation, ENFP personalities tend to give much more of themselves than most are even capable of giving back. This sort of imbalance isn’t sustainable, as (seemingly) one-sided generosity often leads to criticism and resentment on both sides.

Making Life Spectacular

Luckily, ENFPs are open-minded and sincere enough in their friendships, and connect with and understand even their acquaintances well enough, that they recognize that not everyone expresses themselves in the same ways, and that that’s okay. Their sensitivity may make it too challenging to play with more critical and argumentative personalities, such as strongly expressed Thinking (T) and Judging (J) types, but they do appreciate, even cherish, the company of most anyone who appreciates theirs, and the adventures and experiences they have together are the stuff a good life is made of.

Natalie Y.
3 years ago
WOW! This has me pegged dead on!
Theisi Gibson
3 years ago
Wow. This is eerily accurate. Very me. I have difficulty finding others who match and sustain my passion and energy for both friendships and romantic relationships. Thanks for putting yourself "out there" emotionally and tolerating my ups and downs, Loren. ;)
Jane Bender
3 years ago
hallo ENFP's! I'm an INFJ girl, and one of my guy friends is an ENFP. I need help with our friendship... Not in a romantic way, just literally being friends? We think almost exactly alike. it's kind of strange actually. I understand him in a way, but just when I think I've got him figured out, he does something completely strange or unexpected. If you read my personality type, INFJ's put a lot of work into friendships as well, but my problem is that I don't know if the other person even WANTS to be friends. I don't want to nag anyone, so I kind of just wait for the other person to do something. Is that bad? It's not because I'm shy or anything, it's because I don't want to be annoying. But honestly, he get's annoyed really easily. Most of the time I don't know why, but sometimes he'll just look at me and tell me I'm annoying him and to go away. He's told me several times that he has "just hated me and doesn't know why." That frustrates me, because if he had a reason for hating me, I could apologize and try to fix it! But he has no logic whatsoever! I enjoy being around him, and he has really great qualities. I wish I could be better friends with him, but I honestly don't know where to start. Help?
3 years ago
I am at ENFP. My advice is to slow down with the friendship. I don't mean slow down on the road towards romance (if you are on that road, slow down too). Just take it slow at be considerate of his point of view. He will appreciate that.
3 years ago
Yeah I totally see this stuff happening to me. I have a couple of really good friends but not many that I can really really really relate to. I just get too emotional even though I try not to show it because people tend to steer away from that. But a lot of times I find myself the center of attention just because of my sense of humor and how I make everybody feel welcome and not awkward and on the side.
3 years ago
I'm actually shoked how accurate this is it's like my own autobiography
Your name: