ENFP Friends

As friends, ENFPs are cheerful and supportive, always sharing and developing ideas, and staying open-minded, taking in others’ thoughts and feelings. This warmth and sincerity makes people with the ENFP personality type masters of drawing people out of their shells, and as a result they tend to have a huge circle of friends.

As with other relationships, ENFPs view their friendships as opportunities to experience another angle of the universe, and tend to imbue potential friendships with that weighty and idealistic quality.

An Exciting Adventure

More outgoing types will naturally gravitate towards them, but ENFPs will also go to great lengths and be surprisingly persistent in their efforts to get to know more reserved personalities. Their ability to tune into others and speak their language with that characteristic infectious enthusiasm helps them in this endeavor, and the allure of mystery that reserved types, especially Introverted Intuitives, bring to the table will keep ENFPs intrigued for years. These personality types may never be able to reciprocate the breadth of human interest that ENFPs present, but they do appreciate ENFPs’ efforts.

But ENFPs’ interest in others can be a double-edged sword – this pure idealism comes with certain expectations, and too often ENFPs hold their friends in an unrealistic light, expecting them to keep up with the constant flow of ideas and experiences that they consider integral to life. ENFPs put their whole hearts into their friendships, and it can come as a shock for them to find that their friends aren’t the flawless Titans that they believed them to be. Whether it’s simple social fatigue or a focus on the physical and the practical instead of the mystical, people with the ENFP personality type can find themselves disappointed by what they see as a lack of substance beneath the surface.

ENFP friends

ENFPs tend to get deeply involved in others’ lives, going to great lengths and efforts to be the selfless, caring and supportive people they are, and all the while forget to take care of themselves. Both in terms of basic needs like financial stability and rest, as well as more emotional needs like mutual understanding and reciprocation, ENFP personalities tend to give much more of themselves than most are even capable of giving back. This sort of imbalance isn’t sustainable, as (seemingly) one-sided generosity often leads to criticism and resentment on both sides.

Making Life Spectacular

Luckily, ENFPs are open-minded and sincere enough in their friendships, and connect with and understand even their acquaintances well enough, that they recognize that not everyone expresses themselves in the same ways, and that that’s okay. Their sensitivity may make it too challenging to play with more critical and argumentative personalities, such as strongly expressed Thinking (T) and Judging (J) types, but they do appreciate, even cherish, the company of most anyone who appreciates theirs, and the adventures and experiences they have together are the stuff a good life is made of.

Bri
1 year ago
this is so me, I found my people
Traybaybay
2 years ago
Wow... couldn't agree more! I feel like I have always had a huge circle of acquaintances (who are all so diverse, which I love) but some feel like we're closer than we are. In actuality, I trust hardly any of them and they tend to bore me or be unimpressive after getting to know them. I think I'm great at maintaining relationships with many who think they know me (probs cuz I'm extroverted and joke a lot) but there's so much they'll never get to see. For some reason, many like to say or maybe really believe they know me well, but couldn't be further from the truth... maybe bc I'm extroverted and my strong personality is hard to forget ;) but I feel misunderstood often, which is lonely. I love reading stuff like this though because every personality type has their strengths and weaknesses. In terms of romantic relationships, I know I wouldn't want to date someone with my personality but I want someone just as loyal, deep, honest and interesting...lol! Hard to find I recognize but worth the wait! I keep most at a comfortable distance now because I've been so let down by people I thought loved me and I remember the past patterns or behaviors people displayed before I finally realized they were phony or nowhere to be found as times got tough. I have felt very disappointed by the lack of substance in most. Also, due to our curious/observant nature I feel like I'm better able to recognize who to avoid becoming intimate with, which is all. I don't expect PERFECTION but want people who are real with me from the getco... just on the market for good friends really bc that's hard enough in itself. From there, maybe it could spring into "boyfriend material" but still feel like other wounds are healing and I want to be fair to my future lover :) (Also, I want to get to know someone really well first before jumping in...been there, done that ~ doesn't work for me)
Paul
2 years ago
wow... feel like I'm not really the only one who feels like this article.... and I'm just 17 but I can tell ya'll that the best way to deal with rejections is to live and be the best at whatever we are coz that will be the biggest slap to all our doubters and haters.....
Jasmine
2 years ago
This is so accurate! I'm so glad I found this website!
Ariel
2 years ago
Goodness, reading this analysis literally made me cry. Im so thankful (was in pursuit of an explanation, and I've found it) Thanks "16personalities publishers."
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