Love only grows by sharing. You can only have more for yourself by giving it away to others.
The ISFJ personality type is a unique group, in that many of their qualities often defy the definition of their individual personality traits. Though they possess the Feeling (F) trait, ISFJs have excellent analytical abilities; though they are Introverted (I), they have well-developed people skills and robust social relationships; and even though they are a Judging (J) type, as are all Sentinels (SJ), ISFJs are often receptive to change and new ideas. As with so many things, ISFJs are more than the sum of their parts, and it is the way they use these strengths that defines who they are.
ISFJs are true altruists, meeting kindness with kindness-in-excess and engaging work and people they believe in with enthusiasm and generosity – there’s hardly a better type to make up such a large proportion of the population, nearly 13%. Combining the best of tradition and a desire to do good things, ISFJs can often be found in lines of work with a sense of history behind them, such as medicine, academics and charitable social work. However, they are unlikely to seek out managerial positions in these fields, and are still more unlikely to brag about their accomplishments – ISFJs prefer to be rewarded by seeing first-hand the positive impact of their efforts, and will remain enthusiastic simply knowing that what they do is genuinely appreciated by the people they care for.
This personal style is reflected in ISFJs’ preference for working in small, tight-knit groups, with as little friction as possible in the employer-employee relationship. If the employer is too brusque, especially when it comes to changing the rules unannounced, ISFJs will find themselves stressed and unhappy – they need time to prepare for change and new ideas, and while they are perfectly capable embracing such things, it’s important for a new approach to pass ISFJs’ moral filter. If a new idea trespasses on their principles, ISFJs will fight strongly for the traditional approach or existing norms and procedures.
ISFJs are often meticulous to the point of perfectionistic, and while they may sometimes procrastinate, if the rules are known, they can always be relied on to get the job done on time – ISFJs take their responsibilities personally, consistently going above and beyond and doing everything they can to exceed expectations and delight others, whether at work or at home. The challenge for ISFJs is ensuring that what they do is noticed – they have a tendency to underplay their accomplishments, and while their kindness is often respected, more cynical and selfish people are likely to take advantage of ISFJs’ dedication and humbleness by pushing work onto them and then taking the credit. ISFJs need to know when to say when and stand up for themselves if they are to maintain their confidence and enthusiasm.
Naturally social, an odd quality given that they are Introverted, ISFJs utilize an excellent memory not to retain data and trivia, but to remember people and details about their lives. When it comes to gift-giving, ISFJs have no equal, using their imagination and natural sensitivity to express their generosity in a way that will always touch the hearts of their recipients. While this is certainly true of their coworkers, whom ISFJs consider their personal friends more often than not, it is in family that their expression of affection blooms fully.
Though passionate about their work, home is where the heart is for ISFJs, and they take no greater pleasure than in being available for the people they love most. Here, ISFJs’ kindness goes beyond the mere exchange of gifts for gratitude, and into the joy that is found in truly taking care of another person’s needs, in being there for emotional and practical support whenever it’s needed. ISFJs may sometimes believe that they are doing this for their own benefit, but in reality it is a true expression of selflessness.
The trouble is, not everyone is prepared to receive the benefit of ISFJs’ kindness. Some personality types, especially the more independent ones such as INTJs, will find the emotional availability and attention that ISFJs offer up to be cloying or overbearing. Not everyone shares the same sensitivities and philosophies as ISFJs, and it’s important for them to not be put out when someone questions their kindness.
ISFJs are a wonderful group, rarely sitting idle while a worthy cause remains unfinished. ISFJs’ ability to connect with others on an intimate level is unrivaled among Introverts, and the joy they experience from using those connections to maintain a supportive, happy family is a gift for everyone involved. They may never be truly comfortable in the spotlight, and may feel guilty taking due credit for a team effort, but if they can find a way to ensure that their efforts are recognized, both in the workplace and at home, ISFJs are likely to feel a level of satisfaction in what they do that many other personality types can only dream of.