When it comes to parenting, ISTPs give their children more freedom and opportunity to do whatever they want, within sensible limits of course, than any other personality type. It’s a big world out there, meant to be explored and experienced. Nothing is quite as perplexing to ISTP parents as their children sitting inside and watching television all day. Relaxed, open-minded and flexible, ISTP personalities expect their children to use their freedom wisely – that is, to exploit it in the name of exploration and experience.
The World Is Your Oyster
Early in life, this attitude is tremendously beneficial for ISTPs’ children. At this age, every little thing is a miracle, to be explored with every sense. Blocks don’t just have distinct colors and shapes, but smells and tastes too, and this sort of sensory exploration is right up ISTPs’ alley. As their children learn their motor skills, people with the ISTP personality type are happy to stack those blocks right along with them. As their children grow and develop more complex abilities, ISTPs find joy in showing them how to use real tools to build real things.
If ISTPs’ growing children share their basic qualities of spontaneity and passion for physical activities, they are happy to accompany them on just about any activity, be it sports, hiking or hobby engineering. None of this is anything that gets forced on their children though. ISTPs see little need in imparting their principles and interests on their children, instead just enjoying that their children enjoy doing things.
Where ISTP parents struggle most, as with their other relationships, is in emotional bonding. Emotional control is something that children learn and adapt to over years, and comparatively unemotional ISTPs are often left at a loss for what to do in the meantime. ISTPs may just need to rely on a more able partner. Otherwise, it takes a great deal of conscious effort on their part to be able to provide the sort of emotional understanding and support their children need.