ISFP Relationships

ISFPs are quite mysterious and difficult to get to know. While very emotional individuals, they guard this sensitive core carefully, preferring to listen than to express. People with the ISFP personality type focus instead on their partners, with little interest in dictating the mood of a situation with their own feelings. While this can sometimes be frustrating, if they are accepted for who they are, ISFPs prove to be warm, enthusiastic partners.

Things are unlikely to ever grow stale – even the longest-term partners can be surprised by the secrets ISFPs keep.
ISFP romantic relationships

As their relationships grow, ISFPs’ partners come to find vibrancy and spontaneity to be par for the course. ISFPs may not be great long-term planners, preferring to let their partners take the lead when it comes to logic and strategy, but they almost never run out of things to do in the present. Also caring and loyal, ISFPs love finding ways to surprise their partners in fun little ways.

There’s also a sense of practicality to ISFPs’ unpredictability – if anyone is going to cancel a planned trip to stay home with a partner who suddenly got the flu as a gesture of affection, it is ISFP personalities. Spending time with their partners is something ISFPs really enjoy, and they want their partners to know that they are cared for and special.

Knowing You Are Loved, You Can Do Anything

It’s important for their partners to make it clear that this love and attention is valued. ISFPs would never ask for such thanks, but it can really hurt their feelings if they don’t hear it. Such expressions don’t have to be verbal – ISFPs believe in actions, not words – but it’s crucial that they know their feelings are shared. On the other side of the spectrum, there are few types more vulnerable to criticism and conflict, and it’s necessary to provide a certain level of emotional support.

If they do feel appreciated, ISFPs are more than happy to reciprocate in any way they know how. People with the ISFP personality type are very sensual, and in no aspect of their lives is this clearer than in their sex lives. Intimacy is an opportunity for ISFPs to satisfy their partners, and they involve every sense available in enjoying these moments. ISFPs may be shy in public, but alone with a partner they trust, the masks come off – few people get to see this side, and it’s always a pleasant surprise.

Love From the Soul

Feelings and emotions underpin every aspect of ISFPs’ relationships, alongside not just a tendency towards, but a need for, fresh possibilities. ISFP personalities are not to be forced into anything, and rushing long-term commitments is a sure way to scare them off. If ISFPs can’t feel excited in wondering "what’s next?" every morning, they may find themselves wondering "what’s the point?"

Still, developing some skill with planning can be a healthy area of growth for ISFPs. Learning to be a little more comfortable with voicing their feelings and communicating more clearly is something their partners can also help with. In any case, sharing the Observant (S) trait usually smooths out the more challenging aspects of mutual understanding, and relationships with people who have the Extraverted (E) and Judging (J) traits helps ISFPs to learn and grow in real, attainable ways.

1 year ago
Wow, this describes my partner so much! Had asked her to take the test after I got my result INTP. I love her vibrant attitude, but had trouble understanding her other traits, and we have some conflicts and differences. Now I can understand why she is as she is, and why I am so :) Thank you so much for these data, they will be immensely useful in our efforts to make the relationship better.
2 years ago
sweet & nice
4 years ago
Wow this is all so enlightening!
Ej Coll
4 years ago
This is just like me. I didn't think of myself as imaginative and creative but now that I think about it, I guess I am!
Lauren G
4 years ago
my best friend- who I also seem to like as a boyfriend- is an ENFP, I rarely ever know how to respond to his very open thoughts. I can never be as honest about my feelings to him, mostly because I'm hoping to find a better understanding rather than to express myself prematurely. it's scary.
7 months ago
I guess my best friend is an ENFP as well. I feel the same. She wants to try everything, talks a lot and her thoughts go everywhere. But I don't think we talk much deep inside. I always don't know how to respond so I just listen. But apparently she always makes me happy. That's why I'm glad to be with her.
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