ISFJ Friends

Given how generous ISFJs are with their warm praise and support, it’s not surprising that others enjoy their company enough to call them friends. The challenge is to be considered a friend back – people with the ISFJ personality type are shy and a little protective of themselves, but they also need to be able to connect on a deeper emotional level. It makes sense then that most of ISFJs’ friends are made not by random encounters on a wild night out, but through comfortable and consistent contact, as in class or in the workplace where they have the time to get to know each other little by little.

A lot of what establishes and deepens ISFJs’ friendships is the mutual support, advice and reassurance that the friends give each other.

ISFJs need a lot of positive feedback, and admitting this need certainly shows vulnerability, but if that vulnerability is well handled, it creates the deep bonds that ISFJ personalities look for. If badly handled or not reciprocated, it’s hard to see the burgeoning friendship surviving without quite a bit of extra effort.

ISFJ friends

Yet, as their friendships develop, ISFJs’ sense of loyalty may push them to lean ever more on themselves to meet their friends’ needs, to the point of neglecting their own. ISFJs show this in a few ways, from going clearly out of their ways to stick to even trivial commitments, to simply not wanting to disagree or say no for fear of causing turbulence. More cynical types would call this naïve, and may even take advantage of ISFJs’ altruism – but these are hardly the type of people who could be called “friends”, and they have no business being discussed here.

To What Greater Inspiration and Counsel Can We Turn?

The real friends, those close inner circles, are the ones ISFJs truly cherish for their quality of character and quality of discussion. Strangely for an Observant (S) type, ISFJs almost always have an Intuitive (N) friend among them, despite the implicit communication barriers. It’s really not that odd though – these close friends are who ISFJs discuss deeper, more important matters with, and the quality of thought that Intuitives bring with them gives ISFJs’ an impression of limitless depth, mystery and wisdom.

People with the ISFJ personality type aren’t particularly picky about what personality types they make friends with, at least not initially, but because they prefer so strongly to avoid conflict and miscommunication, most of their friends end up being fairly similar types – fellow Introverted and Extraverted Feeling Sentinels (ISFJ and ESFJ). Thinking types are simply too critical, and Prospecting types too unreliable to really be able to provide, and receive, the kind of support and affinity ISFJs look for.

Gail Glover
4 years ago
It is amazing! This profile is me to a tee!! I was sceptic but it's unreal how exact it fits me!! AMAZING!!!!
4 years ago
I'm an ISFJ, my friend is ISFP, and the other friend is INFJ and they both are totally awesome, especially my ISFP friend! she truly the one whom I can connect the most deepest with and I love the way how she understand me, even though we are different on term of Judging(J) and Prospecting(P). and INFJ is fun to be with! she's very heartwarming. I don't often 'talk deep' with her, but when we do, we always fascinated by the way our mind think really the same! Great to have them both, really love them.
4 years ago
hmmmmm... this is interesting! I am an intp, and my best friend in high school was an isfj! she is awesome! I wish I had known about her type before we graduated. I would have understood why she didn't find my talks particularly interesting! haha. I don't blame her though, I was always talking about something scientific... I admire how she stuck by me even though I was a terrible friend.
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