For people with the ESTJ personality type (Executives), the mantra of “hard work, tradition, respect” is best exemplified in their relationships with their children. In many ways, they are very strict. They are guardians of family traditions who have no trouble when it comes to enforcing the rules and standards they’ve established. Often seen as model citizens, they expect their children to uphold that image, continuing the example that they’ve set by being polite and respectful – insubordination is not tolerated.
ESTJ personalities have a very responsibility-oriented view of life, a firm belief in the idea that one does what one can do in order to contribute to the family and community. This view is of course extended to their children, and as soon as they are able, their children are expected to contribute in their own way, by cleaning their plates and their rooms and going to bed on time – by maintaining the order of things.
This inflexibility can become a challenge as their children grow into their more naturally rebellious years. ESTJs defend their own, and their relationships with their children are no different, but they expect their children to adhere to the structures that they’ve put in place to ensure that protection. People with this personality type enjoy creating secure, stable environments, and they consider it an affront to have those considerations rejected – again, insubordination is not tolerated.
It’s not that they have wild, high-flying hopes of perfection for their children – ESTJs are down-to-earth people and simply want to see their children develop into respected, responsible adults. But these personalities also want their children to be strong-willed and capable, and that is something that can only happen when they have the chance to make their own decisions and the chance to face the consequences of those decisions, good or bad, with the love and support of their parents.
A Foundation of Honesty
They may face challenges as their children learn to balance a growing desire for independence with the respect and adherence to the duties required of them, but people with the ESTJ personality type do have a clear advantage of consistency and direct honesty that never leaves their expectations ambiguous. It can be a tall order, but their children always know what they need to bring, and most will recognize and appreciate the dedication and hard work that their parents brought in return.