People with the ESTJ personality type (Executives) are strong, traditional friends who appreciate loyalty and shared values. Friendships with them are often defined by their mutual activities and routines – by external factors – more so than the sense of intellectual or mystical compatibility. But this in no way diminishes the relationships – ESTJs’ friendships of dependability and mutual interest can be powerful connections that endure life’s changes with immutable constancy.
Setting the Course
Among their established friends, people with the ESTJ personality type show themselves to be outgoing and enthusiastic, always more than happy to bring others along for some healthy sport and outdoor activity. They sometimes get a little overbearing in their push for participation, but it’s just because they want everyone to have a good time. Their friends are never short on invites to social activities and events, from tickets to a local ball game, to a weekend camping trip, to a Sunday BBQ.
ESTJs seek strong friendships founded on trust and loyalty (though loyalty to family does come first). Active and with quick minds, people with this personality type can’t ever be accused of not doing enough to fend off a little boredom. While they may not be carefree, ESTJs know how to play their part in making sure that their friends have a good time.
The way that they establish and maintain their friendships does limit the pool though. They tend to seek out people who are similar to themselves, who share their respect for traditions and institutions. ESTJ personalities are naturally stubborn, and it can be hard for them to find enough common ground with people who constantly disagree with their principles and beliefs to really form those ties of friendship.
A Broader Reach
ESTJs’ challenge in friendship isn’t about finding fun things to do or people to do them with but in finding diversity in their friends and activities. For all their community participation, they struggle immensely in even fully listening to differing opinions, let alone befriending people who consistently express alternate viewpoints. Whether about local political issues or the validity of a more emotional, idealistic disposition than they think is reasonable, people with the ESTJ personality type can make more of an effort to truly understand these alternate viewpoints.
Exposing themselves to new ideas among acquaintances who think differently can do no harm – either people with the ESTJ personality type discover better ways and a stronger foundation or they gain all the more confidence in their beliefs for having successfully defended them. Just as they may think those loners who spend their lives in their basements playing video games need to get out more, ESTJs themselves need to make sure they get out of their own bubble of unchallenged opinions and beliefs.
However, despite the challenges that might occur due to their more selective approach toward friendships, it is ESTJs’ consistency, honesty, and clear expectations that tend to strengthen the ties they hold with their friends. They are not only committed to but also protective of their social circle, dedicating the time and resources needed to maintain their bonds.