ENTP Friends

Loyalty, support, emotional feedback – these are not what ENTPs look for in their friendships. The last thing people with the ENTP personality type want to hear is "you’re right", not unless they have absolutely earned the distinction in a heated round of intellectual debate. If they’re wrong, ENTPs want to be told so, and they want every detail of the faults in their logic to be laid bare, partly in their quest for oftentimes arbitrary truth, and partly just so they have to work to defend that logic with counterpoint and parry.

It’s often easy for ENTPs to test compatibility with a potential friend – they just need to test combatability. ENTP personalities are quick-witted, and their primary means of expressing this is in the form of arguments and discussions, where they will easily spend an entire evening debating an idea they may not even believe in.

The epitome of ENTPs’ friendships is when someone can hold their ground in these arbitrary debates with valid, rational arguments.

These debates are never taken personally, no matter how heated they become or how striking the disagreement. Much as an athlete competes for the physical exertion and the spirit of competition itself, ENTPs debate for the sake intellectual stimulation and for the debate itself, and even in overwhelming victory or crushing defeat, it’s never about dominance, only inspiration to try harder next time.

When You Play, Play Hard

They know how to relax and have fun too, it’s just that "fun" to ENTPs – a bottle of wine and a discussion about the causes of and solutions to the European Debt Crisis – could be described as "an evening from hell" by many Observant (S) and Feeling (F) types. But ENTPs are a genial and enthusiastic personality type for the most part, and pretty much any situation that allows for conversation and a little wordplay is an enjoyable outing.

ENTP friends

ENTPs are actually remarkably good at communicating with friends and acquaintances of other personality types. Their natural tendency to argue as effectively as possible means that ENTPs are accustomed to communicating in other people’s language and frame of reference, and this translates well into normal conversation. Where people with the ENTP personality type do have difficulty relating to others is in emotional expression, the Achilles’ heel of all Analyst types.

The Worst Thinking Has Been Done in Turmoil

Being inclined to suppress their emotions and feelings, when ENTPs are faced with a friend who, figuratively or literally, needs a shoulder to cry on, they have no clue how to handle the situation. They are perfectly willing and happy to offer a series of rational, reasonable solutions to the problem at hand, as ENTPs do for any situation where a problem needs to be fixed, but they are certainly not known for their sensitivity or outward affection, no matter how intuitively they may understand another’s position.

Worse is when ENTP personalities try to turn these emotional situations into something they find more comfortable: a debate. Given how remarkably good ENTPs are at debating both sides of a point, they are remarkably bad at putting themselves in someone else’s shoes from an emotional standpoint. ENTPs should avoid at all costs the temptation to turn a discussion about the causes of a friend’s recent breakup into competitive intellectual fodder.

So long as everyone understands not to take their words too personally, anyone who isn’t afraid to discuss new ideas – and have them converted into so much confetti – is likely to find stimulating and thought-provoking friends in ENTPs. It’s not a compatibility that clicks with everyone, but ENTPs don’t really care about being liked by everyone anyways. As long as they get to alternate between being the sounding board and the megaphone, ENTPs and their friends are bound to enjoy each other’s company for a long, long time.

1 year ago
This is really true on my part. I find it stimulating to debate with my friends or even with my family because yeah just as this said - for the fun of it. The atmosphere gets quite heated at home because except me everyone in the family is sensitive and introverted and I end up being sent away from the room. My friends on the other end, though most of them being introverted, take my mental sparring as a challenge and we always end up arguing but nothing gets personal. My friend who is an ENTJ-A loves having intellectual conversations and find him similar to me. While on the other end, there's my childhood friend who is an INTJ-A who is sensitive and I often find myself trying to console her but failing at it miserably. I thought I was a pretty lousy friend at being an emotional support but then I always tend to solve her problems and come up with solutions pretty quick. I am the first person she comes to and well its not like I don't try to deal with emotions. I do but I find it rather difficult and after some point of time I give up. There have been many times when I was called "cold hearted" for not bawling my eyes out on emotional movies or videos unlike others. I casually try to point out how ridiculous it was, often gaining collective gasps as response. But yeah my friends love me for who I am, I know that. And now I am even prouder to know about myself while reading this.
1 year ago
I always wanna be right about everything. I hate not knowing anything. I want to change the world through my thoughts and actions. I wanna bring change in people. I wanna aware people of everything I know. I hate if people misunderstand or underestimate me. i like explaining things and proving my point no matter what.
2 years ago
I find it quite interesting the people I surround myself with. My closest friends consist of an ENFP-A, an INFJ-T, an ISFJ-A, and an ESFP-A. The ENFP often describes the INFJ as a homicidal maniac, and the INFJ describes the ENFP as completely hopeless. The ISFJ can't stand to be around the INFJ, either. And the ESFP will often disappear to God-Knows-Where. Long story short, I get to mediate lots of debates! Yay!
3 years ago
I'm ENTP, and for me emotional support -receiving it AND giving it- is quite important. Yes, it is true that when my friends are upset I try to figure out what's wrong and give them solutions instead of just sitting there with them, hugging them, etc, but I will give them emotional support if they need it, though I'm always uncomfortable, like I don't know HOW to do that.
3 years ago
That same exact thing happened to me during The Fault In Our Stars! The whole theater was crying and i was just sitting there like "Well that was a very cheesy, expected ending" and started commenting on the poor portrayal of some of the characters, all while my friends were bawling their eyes out.
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