ESFJ personality

Encourage, lift and strengthen one another. For the positive energy spread to one will be felt by us all.

Deborah Day

People who share the ESFJ personality type are, for lack of a better word, popular – which makes sense, given that it is also a very common personality type, making up twelve percent of the total population. In high school, ESFJs are the cheerleaders and the quarterbacks, setting the tone, taking the spotlight and leading their team forward to victory and fame. Later in life, ESFJs continue to enjoy supporting their friends and loved ones, organizing social gatherings and doing their best to make sure everyone is happy.

ESFJ personalitySupportive and outgoing, ESFJs can always be spotted at a party – they’re the ones finding time to chat and laugh with everyone! But their devotion goes further than just breezing through for the sake of social maintenance. ESFJs truly enjoy hearing about their friends’ relationships and activities, remembering little details and always standing ready to talk things out with warmth and sensitivity. If something isn’t going right, or there’s tension in the room, ESFJs will be the ones to pick up on it and to try to restore harmony and stability to the group.

At their hearts, ESFJs are social creatures, and thrive on staying up to date with what their friends are doing, rather talking about abstract theories or debating correlation vs. causation. ESFJs are more concerned with fashion and their appearance, their social status and the standings of other people. Practical matters and gossip are their bread and butter, but they do their best to use their powers for good.

ESFJs are natural altruists, and they take seriously their responsibility to help and to do the right thing. Unlike their Diplomat (NF) relatives however, ESFJs will base their moral compass on established traditions and laws, upholding authority and rules, rather than drawing their morality from philosophy or mysticism. It’s important for ESFJs to remember though, that people come from many backgrounds and perspectives, and what may seem right to them isn’t necessarily an absolute truth.

ESFJs love to be of service, enjoying any role that allows them to participate in a meaningful way, so long as they know that they are valued and appreciated. This is especially apparent at home, and ESFJs make loyal and devoted partners and parents. ESFJs respect hierarchy, and do their best to position themselves with some authority, as a parent or as a supervisor, which allows them to keep things clear, stable and organized for everyone.

Being pretty conflict-averse, ESFJs spend a lot of their energy establishing social order, and prefer plans and organized events to open-ended activities or spontaneous meetings. ESFJs put a lot of effort into the activities they’ve arranged, and it can be easy for their feelings to be hurt if someone rejects their idea, or just isn’t interested. Again, it’s important for ESFJs to remember that everyone is coming from a different place, and that someone’s disinterest isn’t a comment about them or the activity they’ve organized – it’s just not their thing.

Coming to terms with their sensitivity is ESFJs’ biggest challenge – people are going to disagree and they’re going to criticize, and while it hurts, it’s just a part of life. The best thing for ESFJs to do is to do what they do best: be a role model, take care of what they have the power to take care of, and enjoy that so many people do appreciate the efforts they make.

Famous ESFJs:

Bill Clinton
William McKinley
Jennifer Garner
Tyra Banks
Danny Glover
Nancy Kerrigan
Sally Field
“Dean Winchester” from Supernatural
“Monica” from Friends
Strengths & Weaknesses


Your name:
jayamoni herron
Aug 14, 2014 17:40:14
This me all the way. I love my family
Aug 11, 2014 11:05:35
ya man, this is the what i love and what i live
Poj Trepralum
Aug 09, 2014 05:34:12
I am an ESFJ,wow! Some pros and some cons.A lot of improvement since my child hood.Will behave my self in some categories.Any way I love what I am.Cheers!
Nate B
Aug 08, 2014 00:43:52
This is really true about me .;)
Norman Mitchell
Aug 07, 2014 20:23:05
The Personality Test was mostly correct. It said I was an ESFJ, but it said the following about me which my wife and I do not see as be factual:
1.being alone frustrates you? ( This is far from being true. As a singer song writer, I spend many enjoyable hours every day alone)
2. complicated concepts and theories frustrate you? ( As a teacher for 47 years, I was constantly giving puzzles and concepts for students to solve.)
3. people with this personality type can be excellent bookkeepers, accountants, or administrators. ( I certainly have no gifting to be an accountant or a bookkeeper. Although I spent many years as a coach and teacher making schedules and plans. I was a principal (administrator for one year, 1989) but it was not my forte either.)
What is important today is that I was considering taking a course in Office Administration, but my wife said, "That is just not you." I have been asked to give my answer on Monday. Thanks for the information and the revelation. I have a lot to think about. Sincerely, Norman Mitchell