If someone tried to define ESFJ personality traits in three words, it would probably be Practical, Altruistic and Sociable. ESFJs want to be of service to others and take their commitments very seriously – they do not really worry about what role they are in, as long as they get a chance to socialize with other people and feel valued and appreciated.
ESFJs are great team players, always able to sense tensions and incompatibilities. They are very traditional, doing their best to support and defend authority and law. People with this personality type also tend to be very devoted, whether they are playing the role of a party host or a social worker. It is quite easy to recognize ESFJs in social events – they will find enough time to chat with everybody.
As ESFJs always try to seek harmony in all possible areas, they are easily offended by others’ disinterest or reluctance to participate in the activities the ESFJ finds noble and important. If uncontrolled, this may be one of ESFJ weaknesses and people with this personality type should consciously try to observe their own behavior around people of different cultures, background or personality types.
ESFJs pay a lot of attention to their looks and are very sensitive about their social status – this particular topic is a true minefield for anyone who decides to discuss it with an ESFJ, especially if there is at least some criticism or sarcasm involved. ESFJs also respect hierarchy and do their best to achieve a position of authority.
ESFJ personalities love to be involved in conversations focusing on practical topics or other people’s lives – however, they will do their best to get out of the discussion once it touches abstract, theoretical topics. Analyzing complex ideas and discussing causes and consequences does not interest ESFJ personalities at all, in a stark contrast to NT types.
I wonder why nearly everyone makes a father confessor out of me. I must look benevolent or else I’m a known easy mark. Well, anyway – I like people and like to help ‘em and keep ‘em out of trouble when I can and help ‘em out when they get into it. The rule around here is that no one may speak to the President. I break it every day and make ‘em speak to me.
ESFJs tend to be very warm, sensitive and perceptive. These are great traits but they can also cause difficulties for them and those around them – people with this personality type are likely to find it quite difficult to cope with situations that involve criticism or conflict.
An ESFJ is likely to take their commitments extremely seriously, putting security and stability above everything else, while not forgetting little but important details in their lives. This personality trait makes them very stable and loyal partners. ESFJs prefer structure over spontaneity, and value clarity, predictability and stability – in all areas of their lives.
Due to the above personality traits, ESFJ women are usually seen as extraordinarily feminine and are frequently depicted as role models in both real life and movies or TV shows. ESFJ men generally express and use these traits in a different way.
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Some famous ESFJs:
William McKinley, a former U.S. president
Bill Clinton, former U.S. president
Harry S. Truman, former U.S. president
Mary Tyler Moore
Sarah Palin, U.S. vice-presidential candidate
Danny Glover, actor
Dean Winchester from “Supernatural”
Monica from “Friends”