ENFP relationships

When it comes to relationships, there's hardly anyone around who is more excited than ENFPs to share with their partners the bounty of ideas and eye-opening experiences that life has to offer. For people with the ENFP personality type, relationships are a joyous process of mutual exploration and imagination, a chance to connect with another soul. ENFPs take their relationships seriously, and are known for their uninhibited and unshakeable devotion to the people to whom they've committed their hearts.

ENFPs have the advantage of irresistible charm when it comes to attracting a partner - ENFPs' warmth, excitement and passion are simply alluring.

In the dating phase, if ENFPs can be said to tolerate such a formal process to begin with, they will show these qualities by showering their new flames with affection, and will do everything they can to build a strong relationship by demonstrating their devotion and reliability by whatever means available.

You cannot live without a fire

ENFP relationshipsLong-distance relationships are quite common among ENFPs, as they view physical distance as just another idea, no match for concepts like love. This gives them the chance to demonstrate their commitment, both by staying true despite the physical separation, and with overtures of effort to surprise their partners, crossing that distance on a whim. These are demonstrations of ENFPs' mystery, idealism and deep emotion, and such efforts often keep the flames of a relationship burning bright.

People with the ENFP personality type express these ideals sexually as well, exploring the physical with imagination and passion, viewing these times together as a chance to let their feelings for each other shine, sharing their love and affection. ENFPs will willingly experiment with their partners, even early in a relationship, but they can also be oddly perfectionistic, believing that these physical acts are a representation of their deeper love, and as such should not be performed carelessly. This perfectionism is also a reflection of their sensitivity, their desire to not disappoint, and ENFPs appreciate a well-placed compliment.

Not everyone can handle the excitement, occasional neediness, and emotional ups and downs that this philosophy entails, whether long-distance or long-term, mystical or physical. ENFPs constantly explore new ideas and improvements, fantasize about future possibilities - in dating, this tendency to look at potential rather than the present can be self-defeating, and their spontaneity makes it harder to stay focused on their end goal of a long-term relationship. If their partners aren't able to reciprocate these acts of excitement and devotion, ENFPs will likely end up feeling unhappy and misunderstood.

So, you think you know the real me?

ENFPs go all-in with their relationships, and if they fall apart despite their efforts, they can end up plagued with questions about why the relationship failed and what they could have done differently - without a buoy, these thoughts can crush ENFPs' self-esteem as they sink into depression. It's important for ENFP personalities, as with anyone, to remember that relationships are in all ways mutual - mutual interest, mutual growth, and mutual responsibility - and they can't be solely accountable.

After a trial like this, ENFPs may be reluctant to open up and commit, and it can take years for a partner to navigate their bewildering depth and intensity, falsely believing that ENFPs' enthusiasm and apparent openness means that they wear everything on their sleeves. The reality is that ENFPs' spontaneity, the seeming inconsistency and erraticism the untrained eye sees, isn't a product of flightiness or lack of depth, but the opposite - it is a drive to express ideas about a mystical, all-encompassing energy, in the confines of a physical world, and underlying it all is the uniting principle of love, expressed in many different ways, but unshakeable and infinite at its core.

Strengths & Weaknesses


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Nov 18, 2014 08:32:46
I can not believe that how this test recognized my personality.
it was completely true.
I recommend it to all my friends
Irene Shapiro
Nov 02, 2014 18:37:33
I am an ENFP. I have always been attracted to men who are INTj's maybe cuz they appreciate what I bring to the table the most. And IN find them intellectually fascinating.

Have you ever , as an ENFP, dated an INTJ phycisist? They are the intellectual Aryians. And they get excited about their new ideas, and most are eager to share their vast knowledge. I even dated a physicist who suffered for Terrets. MY ex, an INTJ , high functioning Aspergers Syndrome. Who finally understood himself when he read " "Look Me In the Eye". I made him read a paragraph and then look me in the eye.

Ah , isn't life grand.
The flipside of this, if the INTJ doenst have sufficient EQ, he ,or she, can mistake effusiveness, passion, as out of control, compassion as a weakness, having vision as being foolishly quixotic, when that is far from true. That being said, I w'd likely not thrive in relationship with another ENFP male , there may not be enough space for our energies. I have been in improv comedy, and like many of my co conspirators.... that kind of creativity and mental energy was , is wonderful and always energizing. Dating a few extroverted, funny men in this group didn't work out, better as friends. I think that sometimes we are b attention whores, so other attention whores don't get what they need. " Irene you are not the life of the party, you are the party" . I wonder if zAny other ENFP is situationally depressed, and freinds hate to see that side, and are exhausted or resentful that those close to us expect us to always " be on"
Feedback for both genders is appreciated
Oct 31, 2014 22:28:05
Oct 31, 2014 18:18:10
ENFP - bloody hell that's me. Accurate for once.
Oct 29, 2014 18:55:43
Love this. so me.