INTP Parents

In parenting roles, as with many social roles, INTPs find themselves facing a robust but healthy challenge. Not a naturally sensitive type, INTP personalities struggle to identify with the raw emotions and irrationality that are often the standard with young children, who have yet to develop the sort of self-control and logical thinking that INTPs take for granted.

People with the INTP personality type are nevertheless incredibly devoted – perhaps not in the traditional, emotionally supportive sense, but they are parents who are committed to encouraging their growing children to think and act independently, seek out new knowledge, and voice and defend their own opinions.

INTP parents

For INTPs knowledge is key, and they will do their best to give their children the tolerance and freedom necessary to acquire it. INTP parents take a relaxed, intellectual approach towards their children, allowing them to explore the world around them and overlooking the more minor offences along the way.

Having no interest in exerting control over other human beings, INTPs are likely to allow their children to form their own principles – though they may take the opportunity of the "why?" phase to share their own perspectives and ideas, just in case.

INTP personalities are not particularly demanding parents, at least not in the sense that they expect their children to live a traditional life of school/career/marriage/house/kids/retirement (and in that order, thank you very much). Rather, INTP parents are demanding in an intellectual sense – they want their children to ask if this path is the best path for them, and how to go about following a different one if they need to. This level of personal freedom can be daunting, and can take a long time to come to terms with, but INTP parents are prepared to stand by their children with support and advice for as long as they need.

While there is hardly a better parent for having rational, intelligent discussions with their children, there is hardly a clumsier example when it comes to providing the emotional support that many children need, especially as they approach their teenage years. In this area, INTPs will need to either rely on a more capable partner, or to take themselves far out of their comfort zone in order to empathize without trying to clear away the tears with an endless series of rational suggestions and blunt truths.

Not Just Life, but Good Life

INTPs want nothing more than for their children to grow up smart, independent, and tolerant, but if they want them to be well-adjusted too, they must make this effort. INTPs’ parenting style affords a great deal of latitude for their children, but with this freedom comes responsibility, and it is INTPs’ responsibility to ensure that it is used constructively. Though it’s a challenge for people with the INTP personality type to teach empathy alongside rationality, if they are able to pull it off, their children will grow into confident adults who know how to ask questions, use their minds, and take care of themselves no matter what comes their way.

Heather
2 years ago
No, I think it is funny too, Nullem. I have 4 children, two are grown. My son is perfectly able to take care of himself and bright. My daughter, she needs help now and then. The other 2 I am raising the same, despite my logical partially militant man. Who parents very different from I, so Solomon I love my style of parenting, no one else does. When I heard a few years back kids were accidentally hanging themselves for sexual release, I watched with my daughter hours of vids about kids who died playing The Choking Game. Seemed logical, did I scar her...possibly. She never played that game, and neither did her friends. At least now I know why I explained the scary out of movies, ect.. "That's an actor, someone wrote a script and the actors have to do everything that is written, even if it's stupid, Now watch the movie!"
Noah
3 years ago
I have a friend who is INTP and he is almost always an enigma to deal with. This may be because I'm ESFP, but I almost could never understand him or his motives. This helps a bunch with these kind of things
Solomon
3 years ago
I love kids and I think this is how I'd be a parent to i give them a lot of freedom to I can see that so clearly it's scary I don't think this is a bad parenting style.
Mimi
3 years ago
I used to wonder what what wrong with me why i just didnt feel sorry for kids when they were in a fit of fury. And i am very liberal with them and allow them to make their own decisions a lot even at a young age but when it comes to safety, bedtime and healthy eating i am as anal as they come. I really dont think my parenting style is bad at all even if i recieve a lot of criticism from family. :P
ok
3 years ago
Thank god I have 3 boys. They typically don't have the emotional outbursts girls usually have. If they do, I'm the voice of reason for them.
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