INTP Friends

Many of the usual motivations for making friends – emotional support, social validation, shared routine – simply don’t apply to INTPs. More likely, these concepts are met with disdain, as people with the INTP personality type prize intellectual depth above all else. It is not easy to become good friends with INTPs, but if there is a common interest and a common train of thought, the connection is likely to spark instantly, surprising everyone else who thought they had this distant personality type pegged.

INTP friends

Be Slow to Fall Into Friendship...

INTP friendships are knowledge-based, defined by the exchange of ideas, theories, and concepts, and those who aren’t able to keep up with this, or who have sharply differing tastes (don’t talk to INTPs about celebrities) will find stony faces that border on rude. To INTPs, communication is often more of a nuisance than a pleasure, and conversation is reserved for topics that they find meaningful, or for people they already like enough to stick it out.

Unless there’s a natural affinity for this intellectual style, few have the patience to try to penetrate their shields, and INTPs are left with a naturally small circle of good friends.

Other Analyst types are a natural fit for INTPs, who share their passion for new ideas, riddles and solutions. People with the INTP personality type are knowledgeable and intelligent, and have a great deal of respect for those who can keep them on their toes in this regard. They will gladly help to tackle any dilemma thrown their way, offering up sound advice and rational solutions. As valuable as these qualities are though, they are not always the best approach – when it comes to emotional support or advice in dealing with matters of the heart, INTPs are at a loss.

It’s not that INTP personalities don’t feel – quite the contrary, they actually have very strong sentiments. But Feeling (F) is one of INTPs’ least developed traits, making their emotional reactions strong, untrustworthy and naturally in need of being tempered by their well-trained logic and rationalism. Still waters run deep.

...But When in Friendship, Continue Firm and Constant

While they may not be able to help directly with these sorts of problems, INTPs help indirectly with unambiguous and reliable friendships. INTPs’ friends need never worry about power games or emotional baggage – they are liked for their minds and abilities, not their status or possessions. While it may not be easy to establish true friendships with INTP personalities, once the link is made, they will provide years of understanding and thought-stimulating ideas, making them well worth the effort.

Yasmin
3 years ago
Surprisingly accurate and it's hard when I try to explain to my friends on how I see the world in my mind and they simply don't understand.
LongUsernamePowers
3 years ago
Accurate, except for one crucial thing- I am not tough. My emotions are easily hurt and often are at least once a day. However, I do a good job concealing it and now people assume I'm this cold, judgmental freak who never reacts to anything. I'm quite the opposite. I gladly help people without seeking rewards, I /try/ to seem friendly and outgoing (especially when meeting new people so they would have a good opinion of me), other people judge me first before I even consider judging them. I never want any drama and that's the prime reason why I seem shy or cold to people when I first meet them. After time, I might warm up to them and trust them enough to show my true emotions, though that hasn't happened yet. :( Another thing is that I have a lot of friends who are not necessarily Extraverts, but have a wide circle of friends. I don't have a wide circle of friends and I often get disappointed when I try to hang out with them and their friend tries to steal the conversation away from me and I'm not able to do anything since I assume that my friend is more close to that person than me. It's like their personality seems bolder and makes more of an impact than mine. TL;DR I'm sensitive despite being INTP and I don't think my friends think of me as much as I think of them. Anyone else have these problems?
Rae
3 years ago
YES. I am a more turbulent INTP, so it truly is easier to hurt my feelings. My emotions show on my face, even though I don't want them to. The only reason I know this is because my sister told me. I can keep my emotions bottled up very well, and sometimes I forget that I even have all this emotional pain pent up inside me. But there is a breaking point for everyone I suppose. Usually I only cry immensely for about five minutes, and the rest of the time I'm just depressed. I do kind of go out of my way to be outgoing with new people, if I feel comfortable enough, but after, I feel even more scared of people, and feel like I should never leave my room again. Just like you said, I think that I just don't have as big an impact on people as they do on me. In fact, this INTJ I'm interested in romantically just today told me about situation he experienced with his friend. I was there, but apparently he forgot all about me, and apparently he doesn't remember anything about the time we spent together in the past. I hate it. It hurts. I remember everything about him. I remember everything about all the people I've come into contact with. Friends, acquaintances, bullies. Now I have nothing. Nothing but the bitter taste of being forgotten. I just want to shrivel up and die already. But, when I engage myself in an interesting project, or just go for a walk in the forest, I feel better. People just don't seem to know how deep the rivers flow... sometimes even I don't know.
Scott
3 years ago
Very interesting and surprisingly accurate.
-An INTP
3 years ago
Heck, and I thought I was unique.
Djay
3 years ago
Ah, yeah. What the page says. Maybe I could just print all these on a shirt...then again 90% of all the extrovert acquaintances I know don´t read.
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