INTP Friends

Many of the usual motivations for making friends – emotional support, social validation, shared routine – simply don’t apply to INTPs. More likely, these concepts are met with disdain, as people with the INTP personality type prize intellectual depth above all else. It is not easy to become good friends with INTPs, but if there is a common interest and a common train of thought, the connection is likely to spark instantly, surprising everyone else who thought they had this distant personality type pegged.

INTP friends

Be Slow to Fall Into Friendship...

INTP friendships are knowledge-based, defined by the exchange of ideas, theories, and concepts, and those who aren’t able to keep up with this, or who have sharply differing tastes (don’t talk to INTPs about celebrities) will find stony faces that border on rude. To INTPs, communication is often more of a nuisance than a pleasure, and conversation is reserved for topics that they find meaningful, or for people they already like enough to stick it out.

Unless there’s a natural affinity for this intellectual style, few have the patience to try to penetrate their shields, and INTPs are left with a naturally small circle of good friends.

Other Analyst types are a natural fit for INTPs, who share their passion for new ideas, riddles and solutions. People with the INTP personality type are knowledgeable and intelligent, and have a great deal of respect for those who can keep them on their toes in this regard. They will gladly help to tackle any dilemma thrown their way, offering up sound advice and rational solutions. As valuable as these qualities are though, they are not always the best approach – when it comes to emotional support or advice in dealing with matters of the heart, INTPs are at a loss.

It’s not that INTP personalities don’t feel – quite the contrary, they actually have very strong sentiments. But Feeling (F) is one of INTPs’ least developed traits, making their emotional reactions strong, untrustworthy and naturally in need of being tempered by their well-trained logic and rationalism. Still waters run deep.

...But When in Friendship, Continue Firm and Constant

While they may not be able to help directly with these sorts of problems, INTPs help indirectly with unambiguous and reliable friendships. INTPs’ friends need never worry about power games or emotional baggage – they are liked for their minds and abilities, not their status or possessions. While it may not be easy to establish true friendships with INTP personalities, once the link is made, they will provide years of understanding and thought-stimulating ideas, making them well worth the effort.

Scott
3 years ago
Very interesting and surprisingly accurate.
-An INTP
3 years ago
Heck, and I thought I was unique.
Djay
3 years ago
Ah, yeah. What the page says. Maybe I could just print all these on a shirt...then again 90% of all the extrovert acquaintances I know don´t read.
Hanna
3 years ago
SO TRUE so true so true... Oh, and did I mention SO TRUE. I absolutely adore people who can make me think and laugh and want to know more. I have a slight majority of extroverted friends, or at least introverted friends who socialize a lot, because they initiate conversation with me which I need. If you don't talk, my interest ebbs, but I still try to find out whether you're interesting enough and if we click. I only really care about these people's opinions, but I worry that I'm not interesting enough for them though. (Thus, self improvement.) I do have slight (improving) social anxiety which frustrates me to no end. Even though I don't worry about social standings or "popularity", I still want companionship and friends. I do feel, but I find it hard to feel for others and sympathize. Animal and human cruelty makes me so mad, but I suppress that anger by saying I can't do anything about it and/or it's not my problem. By now, it's become almost routine. I also debate aloud about these injustices; with myself because I can't bring myself to debate with a complete stranger and/or I'm simply not moved enough. When I do feel, it's usually about my own plights, and I feel so poignantly that I'm almost driven to tears. Almost being the key word, I then subdue the tears using the aforementioned logic. Love is such a complicated emotion for me that I avoid thinking about it and the current object of my affection because just one drop of it can make me feel like I'm being torn apart.
Cecilia
3 years ago
This is Sherlock Holmes the whole way.
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