ENFJ Strengths and Weaknesses

ENFJ Strengths

ENFJ strengths
  • Tolerant – ENFJs are true team players, and they recognize that that means listening to other peoples’ opinions, even when they contradict their own. They admit they don’t have all the answers, and are often receptive to dissent, so long as it remains constructive.
  • Reliable – The one thing that galls ENFJs the most is the idea of letting down a person or cause they believe in. If it’s possible, ENFJs can always be counted on to see it through.
  • Charismatic – Charm and popularity are qualities ENFJs have in spades. They instinctively know how to capture an audience, and pick up on mood and motivation in ways that allow them to communicate with reason, emotion, passion, restraint – whatever the situation calls for. Talented imitators, ENFJs are able to shift their tone and manner to reflect the needs of the audience, while still maintaining their own voice.
  • Altruistic – Uniting these qualities is ENFJs’ unyielding desire to do good in and for their communities, be it in their own home or the global stage. Warm and selfless, ENFJs genuinely believe that if they can just bring people together, they can do a world of good.
  • Natural Leaders – More than seeking authority themselves, ENFJs often end up in leadership roles at the request of others, cheered on by the many admirers of their strong personality and positive vision.

ENFJ Weaknesses

ENFJ weaknesses
  • Overly Idealistic – People with the ENFJ personality type can be caught off guard as they find that, through circumstance or nature, or simple misunderstanding, people fight against them and defy the principles they’ve adopted, however well-intentioned they may be. They are more likely to feel pity for this opposition than anger, and can earn a reputation of naïveté.
  • Too Selfless – ENFJs can bury themselves in their hopeful promises, feeling others’ problems as their own and striving hard to meet their word. If they aren’t careful, they can spread themselves too thin, and be left unable to help anyone.
  • Too Sensitive – While receptive to criticism, seeing it as a tool for leading a better team, it’s easy for ENFJs to take it a little too much to heart. Their sensitivity to others means that ENFJs sometimes feel problems that aren’t their own and try to fix things they can’t fix, worrying if they are doing enough.
  • Fluctuating Self-Esteem – ENFJs define their self-esteem by whether they are able to live up to their ideals, and sometimes ask for criticism more out of insecurity than out of confidence, always wondering what they could do better. If they fail to meet a goal or to help someone they said they’d help, their self-confidence will undoubtedly plummet.
  • Struggle to Make Tough Decisions – If caught between a rock and a hard place, ENFJs can be stricken with paralysis, imagining all the consequences of their actions, especially if those consequences are humanitarian.
5 years ago
Holy moley!!! You got it exactly right, dannceline; so often I'm asking why others dont try harder. Why they dont care, why everyone seems so SELFISH. Its so facinating that you feel the same! Its rough, being us. ;-)
5 years ago
I find this test very accurate and agree with most things stated. Great stuff!!
sally rice
5 years ago
This report is sooooo accurate, it is frightening. Everything in it applies to me exactly. I just wish I had the ability to do a little reprograming on the sensitivity side...
5 years ago
It is crazy to me that you have stated this issue. I find myself up against it daily. I always questions myself "Why do I expect so much of people? Is it just me? Why don't people want better, do better? Why are people nasty to each other? Why can't I find friends that support my quest for better? Can't people see I just want what is best for them with all my heart?" I think we need an ENFJ support group :) You know, birds of a feather. I just can't seem to find others like me. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband that reassures me that I am doing the right thing and stand for more than the average, even to a fault that continues to hurt me. He deeply respects me for it and that gets me through the day feeling loved.
5 years ago
Thank you for opportunity! I found myself in ENFJ type after test. apparently it is right. I had been charismatic, Altruistic & Tolerant natural leader. Paradox is, I always clearly found that, I do not have any ardent followers, believers & long time friends - in spite of success by my endeavors. Day by Day it is becoming worst, I find- people standing with/behind me temporarily , would easily turn hostile/towards opponents leaving me frustrated often. So, what's it? ENFJ is good enough? how can I hold myself where I should be? expecting fruits/results which many similar others achieved even with very less efforts/trueness in act- is wrong? pls comment ...thank you helping me.
5 years ago
I feel the same way and I think it goes back to our personality type valuing ideals very highly. Our idealistic side tells us that if we are successful that we should have praise, loyalty, and support from our peers. When this does not happen, our self-esteem may plummet. We need to remember that success measured by our own values is intrinsically satisfying. Therefore we can begin to put less weight on external factors and find happiness from within. Hope this helps.
4 years ago
Never judge your value on the opinions of others, we are trapped and demoralized easily this way. Never base your self worth on by comparison to others, again, but more generally - leadership requires weighing many opposing views and making a decision that is ration but it has to feel right above all - then you have to be ready to stand alone in your assessment. Nobody ever shares your point of view EXACTLY. Learn to live with it as your "right" is yours alone and others are just as valid. It is wrong to hold on to jealousy, but like all emotions it too is a faithful guide. It calls attention to an underlying feeling of greed. Greed is an ugly monster that we hold in check by placing higher value on people than other types do. Accept that the warmth you get from others is a valid form of payment and you will not see yourself so poor. Actively take pleasure in others successes. Let go of any notion of enemies or opponents, or grudges. You make friends easily, and if your environment is static you may suffer. Maybe you have a pattern of leaving jobs after 5 years, having become so familiar with the people and politics that it becomes too difficult. New careers after 10 years. Being a natural leader does not mean that you acquire any following, rather that you, with some seasoning, find no difficulty in guiding yourself, trusting yourself. When you are willing to define your own path, you are a leader, nobody need follow. If you are a strong leader you take care not to become full of yourself if people choose to follow. Leadership is also about being willing to lead in the absence of an authority figure. Most people will not. We tend to place to high a value on the personal evaluation others make of us. We feel betrayed. We struggle with knowing we are good people and why doesn't everyone know it? They do. It just feel that and it keeps happening again and again. It's like we care too much and can't stop. But the blame it not on them, it our need for approval that makes us take ordinary criticism as betrayal. What helps is when you identify that body sensation of betrayal - remind yourself that you are loved and people simply don't know how to communicate with you. Again, when you experience that hostility reaction to a perceived betrayal - remember this person loves you. You have let them get close enough to you to hurt you. They are trying to something to you that anyone else could hear and take no offense to it. Acknowledge what they are saying so it stops. Participate in the dialogue and it gets diffused. You know how important is to you to be understood? Well, they are just trying to be understood. let them know they are heard and understood and then move on to something else. There is only suffering for you there. :)
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