INTP Relationships

When it comes to romantic relationships, INTPs have an interesting mixture of traits that often pleasantly surprise their partners. People with this personality type are always full of ideas, but they have few opportunities to explore their more romantic notions. As with any of their theories, INTPs love sharing with others, and in finally meeting someone where romantic thoughts are appropriate, they show themselves to be excited, enthusiastic, and even playful, flirting with word-play and intellectual games.

None of this is to say that these relationships come easily to INTPs - they are shy and withdrawn individuals, and getting out and meeting new people, risking rejection and making themselves the center of attention in emotionally delicate situations are far from being their strengths. It is more likely that INTP personalities will leave a trail of breadcrumbs for a potential partner, allowing them to make the first move and committing to their partner as an act of reciprocation rather than bravado.

Marry! A Good Wife Makes Happiness, A Bad One, Philosophy

INTP personalityFrom the start, INTPs take their relationships seriously - their imagination and vision, and the challenge of getting to know new people, make them all too aware of how important it is that they're involved with someone, and they will prove themselves surprisingly loyal. Even early the dating phase, INTPs are unusually direct and honest, doing their best to express their mindset and create mutual understanding, believing that this shared knowledge will help to minimize misunderstandings and avoid conflict.

As their relationships progress, INTPs' daily needs prove remarkably simple. Gifts, surprises, complex social plans and date nights are all fairly unimportant to people with the INTP personality type, but this is also one of their chiefest weaknesses - their partner may very much need these things, and it won't even occur to INTPs to plan them out. For all their analysis and attempts at mutual understanding, INTPs are notoriously bad at picking up on others' emotional needs.

When it comes to conflict, there is a certain willful ignorance for INTPs, and they often set aside their partners' feelings, and their own, for far too long.

When these conflicts do arise and are inescapable, INTPs will do their best to find a logical solution. But this hardly helps if the problem is logic itself, that INTP personalities aren't meeting their partners' emotional needs. INTPs should keep this in mind, and try to meet their partners halfway by communicating on an emotional level - if they make this effort, understanding partners will recognize and appreciate the gesture, clumsy though it may be. After all, they need to afford INTPs the same benefit, and meet them halfway with logic and simplicity as well.

Beware the Barrenness of a Busy Life

All this material asceticism and conflict avoidance support one primary goal - to free up mental resources for more important things. INTPs' creative, vivid imagination make for a surprisingly enthusiastic, passionate, and romantic partner. While INTPs may prioritize their inner world too much, imagining interesting and exciting intimate situations that are never expressed to their partners, they also use this rich inner world to achieve as much as possible in intimacy - they rarely want for ideas.

Physically, intellectually and with a little effort emotionally, INTP relationships are rich and rewarding connections. Partners who share the Intuitive (N) trait are usually best, along with one or two opposite traits to create variety and balance, but so long as INTPs remember that they are with people who have their own, independent wants and needs, and so long as their partners remember the same of their INTPs, these are long-lasting and satisfying relationships.

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The Mortals Are Weird
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Mar 26, 2015 15:38:03
I was originally a feeling type, but recently became an INTP. I always got feeling types when taking the test, but lately I've been working on relying on logic over emotions. Emotions can cloud judgement and can be frustrating at times. I believe my emotions are so crazy right now, due to the fact that I'm 17 and a female. Compared to other females, I am not as emotional. In fact no one really notices now when I'm on my period of recent. I in fact HATE getting thoughts about boys or anything near attraction. It's very uncomfortable and awkward. I'm not in any way or form ready for a relationship, so these feelings of romance and attraction towards males is not needed. I don't understand why so many people want a relationship, physical affection, and enjoy flirting so much. It all seems useless at the end of the day. Unless you're going to marry me and become my partner when I am ready for a relationship, don't even look at me as a possible mate.
Pirate Steve
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Mar 22, 2015 02:42:37
I hate being INTP...
Crystalstar202
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Feb 22, 2015 17:58:14
Nope! Don't wanna marry!!!!! Nope Nope Nope Nope Nope.
Asexual and proud.
flowerchild1895
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Feb 18, 2015 16:24:52
I wouldn't say I'm emotionless, there are times where I'm quite moved by something or someone, but I rarely show it or try to hide it because I feel that I'm being ridiculousl or embarrass or just squishy gooey inside and it's the most odd, awkward, and confusing feeling and I don't know why, I prefer to contemplate on it alone in my thoughts, heck! Sometimes even alone I can't confess what I actually feel, I always thought that maybe I'm just not ment to feel and I'm not a nice person for it
Anonymous
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Feb 24, 2015 11:41:00
It's same here no matter how much I want to just let out in the open I can't . I try so much but I just can't say it out loud to any one. I also feel like I am not worth the goodness I get . People don't really do anything to me but I just dislike them . This is so screwed up.
Anonymous
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Feb 09, 2015 02:04:13
It's not that I'm emotionless, just that I feel awkward trying to express it in ways others want me to. To me, just being around them and sharing my ideas shows how much I think of them.
Anonymous
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Mar 21, 2015 08:12:00
I have taken many of these tests and always fall into INTP. From other forums and testing sights I have read, it is not that INTPs do not feel emotion. The problem is the expression of said emotion. When I am thinking, I have an expression that makes me look angry. I'm actually just focused. I'm constantly asked "what's wrong?" by friends and family. In reality, it takes a lot to make me truly angry.
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