ENFJ strengths
- Very charismatic. ENFJ personalities are charming and popular – they instinctively know how to attract and keep people’s attention, as well as communicate with them effectively.
- Altruistic. ENFJs are warm and selfless, always willing to help other people. They are idealists, motivated by the idea of doing something good for the world.
- Skilled imitators. ENFJs find it very easy to notice what drives, motivates and worries other people, and are instinctively able to adjust their own manners and arguments accordingly.
- Natural leaders. ENFJ personalities do not seek to dominate or direct, but people are attracted to their charisma and eloquence – unsurprisingly, ENFJs usually end up being very popular and rarely have any difficulties getting to leadership positions.
- Tolerant. People with this personality type tend to be open-minded and accepting, willing to consider competing ideas as long as they do not contradict their inner principles. ENFJs can easily get along with most other types.
- Reliable. ENFJs work hard for causes they consider important – if their role excites and motivates them, an ENFJ can be very patient and reliable.
ENFJ weaknesses
- Sometimes too selfless. ENFJs may often take on too much work or get deeply involved in other people’s problems, trying too hard to not offend or disappoint anybody.
- Very idealistic. People with this personality type can often be too idealistic or even naïve, believing that everyone is good natured and cares about principles that are important to the ENFJ.
- Often too sensitive. Deep down, ENFJs are sensitive and emotional individuals who can get hurt and disappointed very easily. They may also worry too much about other people’s feelings and well-being.
- Vulnerable to criticism. ENFJ personalities have a strong inner core of principles and values, and they can get very hurt if someone criticizes them. ENFJs may also have difficulties reacting calmly to general criticism and negativity.
- May find it difficult to make tough decisions. Due to their altruism and sensitivity, ENFJs are likely to struggle with decisions involving hard choices – they may waver between different options, unable to stop thinking about all the possible consequences.
- Highly fluctuating self-esteem. ENFJs’ self-esteem depends on whether they are able to live up to their ideals and fulfill their goals, while at the same time making sure that everyone around them is happy. If the ENFJ’s ideas are being constantly criticized or they are unable to help people close to them, their self-confidence is likely to plummet.
Do you agree or disagree with these points? Please share your opinion in the comments!
You may also be interested in our ENFJ Personal Development Guide – it gives specific practical advice on how to leverage your strengths and address your weaknesses.
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Thank you for opportunity! I found myself in ENFJ type after test. apparently it is right. I had been charismatic, Altruistic & Tolerant natural leader.
Paradox is, I always clearly found that, I do not have any ardent followers, believers & long time friends – in spite of success by my endeavors.
Day by Day it is becoming worst, I find- people standing with/behind me temporarily , would easily turn hostile/towards opponents leaving me frustrated often.
So, what’s it? ENFJ is good enough? how can I hold myself where I should be? expecting fruits/results which many similar others achieved even with very less efforts/trueness in act- is wrong?
pls comment …thank you helping me.
I feel the same way and I think it goes back to our personality type valuing ideals very highly. Our idealistic side tells us that if we are successful that we should have praise, loyalty, and support from our peers. When this does not happen, our self-esteem may plummet. We need to remember that success measured by our own values is intrinsically satisfying. Therefore we can begin to put less weight on external factors and find happiness from within. Hope this helps.
Well,I once in that state,I got a few friends,but none really understand me,I always try to “fit in” so that people’d accept me,I read many personal development blogs for advices,but they just won’t work,eventually,I got smack on the face (figuratively) by 1 of my teachers,whom I really trust & think he is a good man,but he criticise my class,not directly,but through telling a seemingly unrelated stories,at 1st I didn’t understand what he meant (naive),but my friends did,so I found out,I just feel so betrayed (the criticism is wrong,due to him not understand my class well enough,he is only in for replacement of our math teacher for 2 periods),that he didn’t take time to get to know us before judging us,more because I previously didn’t think a man like him could be so harsh & just criticise in a manner like that, I later dump all,I mean ALL,the values I was born with,I rethink everything by myself,1 of my friend, a girl,helped me through it, wouldn’t come out without her,now here I am,independent,I feel so joyful everyday,my social life just took off,my result just took off,it’s awesome!what I’v learned is that,whenever u find urself suffering from negative emotions from anything in your life,there are ALWAYS something, beliefs,teachings, that u were taught in the past & blindly accept without thinking it through. There always do,u just need to find it, or the best way, just dump everything u were taught to believe, & use your intuition to reform the basis in a way that feel great to u,not feel comfortable, but great, joyful, happy, loving!it’s a bjt hard at 1st, but later u’ll find it’s worth it!try it for urself!
Guide to find a true friend:
It’s rare that u don’t have any genuine person in your life, u can find them by interacting, perceiving who they are by intuition (u can do that,just practice), observe them! Once u’v found a genuine person,be genuine & helpful toward him/her (I especially prefer girl – the other gender), true friendship can be establish & maintain! Don’t use logic & reason, don’t make plan to achieve a connections, use extraverted feeling, sense for him/her, if u happen to find s/he isn’t a match, move on! (but keep contact)
It is crazy to me that you have stated this issue. I find myself up against it daily. I always questions myself “Why do I expect so much of people? Is it just me? Why don’t people want better, do better? Why are people nasty to each other? Why can’t I find friends that support my quest for better? Can’t people see I just want what is best for them with all my heart?” I think we need an ENFJ support group
You know, birds of a feather. I just can’t seem to find others like me. Thankfully I have a wonderful husband that reassures me that I am doing the right thing and stand for more than the average, even to a fault that continues to hurt me. He deeply respects me for it and that gets me through the day feeling loved.
This report is sooooo accurate, it is frightening. Everything in it applies to me exactly. I just wish I had the ability to do a little reprograming on the sensitivity side…
I find this test very accurate and agree with most things stated. Great stuff!!