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ENFJ strengths and weaknesses

ENFJ Strengths

  • Tolerant - ENFJs are true team players, and they recognize that that means listening to other peoples' opinions, even when they contradict their own. They admit they don't have all the answers, and are often receptive to dissent, so long as it remains constructive.
  • Reliable - The one thing that galls ENFJs the most is the idea of letting down a person or cause they believe in. If it's possible, ENFJs can always be counted on to see it through.
  • Charismatic - Charm and popularity are qualities ENFJs have in spades. They instinctively know how to capture an audience, and pick up on mood and motivation in ways that allow them to communicate with reason, emotion, passion, restraint - whatever the situation calls for. Talented imitators, ENFJs are able to shift their tone and manner to reflect the needs of the audience, while still maintaining their own voice.
  • Altruistic - Uniting these qualities is ENFJs' unyielding desire to do good in and for their communities, be it in their own home or the global stage. Warm and selfless, ENFJs genuinely believe that if they can just bring people together, they can do a world of good.
  • Natural Leaders - More than seeking authority themselves, ENFJs often end up in leadership roles at the request of others, cheered on by the many admirers of their strong personality and positive vision.

ENFJ Weaknesses

  • Overly Idealistic - People with the ENFJ personality type can be caught off guard as they find that, through circumstance or nature, or simple misunderstanding, people fight against them and defy the principles they've adopted, however well-intentioned they may be. They are more likely to feel pity for this opposition than anger, and can earn a reputation of naïveté.
  • Too Selfless - ENFJs can bury themselves in their hopeful promises, feeling others' problems as their own and striving hard to meet their word. If they aren't careful, they can spread themselves too thin, and be left unable to help anyone.
  • Too Sensitive - While receptive to criticism, seeing it as a tool for leading a better team, it's easy for ENFJs to take it a little too much to heart. Their sensitivity to others means that ENFJs sometimes feel problems that aren't their own and try to fix things they can't fix, worrying if they are doing enough.
  • Fluctuating Self-Esteem - ENFJs define their self-esteem by whether they are able to live up to their ideals, and sometimes ask for criticism more out of insecurity than out of confidence, always wondering what they could do better. If they fail to meet a goal or to help someone they said they'd help, their self-confidence will undoubtedly plummet.
  • Struggle to Make Tough Decisions - If caught between a rock and a hard place, ENFJs can be stricken with paralysis, imagining all the consequences of their actions, especially if those consequences are humanitarian.

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Pete
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Aug 20, 2014 07:55:01
I too am an 'ENFJ', but the Extraversion is only slightly more than the Introversion. Therefore I also have 'INFJ' traits.

Like you, I am list obsessive. If I don't have a list I get stressed and also often forget what needs to be done.

And I too am an 'empath', which is basically the exact opposite of a psychopath. Do, though, be careful with your physical and mental health (as other peoples' stress can make us unwell in body and mind).

Also, I feel the World around me. Sort of if I am the centre of it, though I hope not to appear grandiose in making that comparison. That said, I used to have what could be 'Compensatory Narcissism', which is striving to be accepted by society. Not admired, like classic narcissists.

With relationships I am easily infatuated with 'NT' women (I am a man), though I only have loved women with Feeling. I mostly attract 'SFP' women, but they soon get bored with me because I am not spontaneous nor very assertive. And too kind! I tend to smother with my love. With male friends, I seem to attract 'STPs'.

Funny old world!
Michelle Moore Peppin
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Aug 19, 2014 21:50:15
Unbelievable, really. Right on target with everything! ENFJ. Now, to work on my weaknesses!
Anonymous
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Jul 31, 2014 21:54:57
I am am ENFJ almost 100% (score of average 98% between the 4)

I find this versio a little different from others but for the most part very true

People oriented (as an extrovert of course outer world is expected to have a more comfort zone when others are around (introvert I always look at in comparison to a cell phone, the more used the more it needs charged and the higher introvert the older the battery, thus needing charged more often and longer) as an Extrovert it is the opposite we get charged around people not alone if this makes sense

I(N)tuistic oh yeah Although this didn't discuss this as much maybe because I favor the more intuitive INFJ in that I literally feel the world around me I see the world in pictures at times and can feel what those people around me feel But having such a high percent on this level could be why I differ from so many others of my type on this level. I prefer to use this sense as opposed to my other 5 senses

Feeling over thinking Of course feel first think second Putting others before myself to the point of it almost being painful to think of myself first

And judgment Well I am so OCD it drives me crazy lol I make more lists I make lists of what lists I need to make

This is just the tip of the ice berg too

My career, I am a Hopsice nurse. I am a mother of three girls. They are all taught to be unique and individual I want them to grow up strong independent and healthy Which so far they are doing a great job at!!! I married an ISTP Go figure my mirror, we don't fight much. Why? Because I give in I don't see making a big deal out of things that are small issues. I can find happiness through seeing my family happy!!!!!!

I am text book ENFJ The world around me and the people around me fascinate me I love them!!!!!

I recently learned that I am also am empath Still not clear on that but I am trying to figure it out more I guess it is common for this personality Maybe there are more out there like me!!!!
Julius
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Jul 30, 2014 10:17:37
The part of taking Criticism, I don't fully agree with that. As an ENFJ, I understand and respect everyone's opinions and I'm able to keep myself calm when taking criticism. Even when some are not valid. Other than this, the evaluation is good.
James
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Jul 19, 2014 23:22:15
I'd like the add to the whole idealistic thinking thing and say that I am way too trusting in other people, which always leads to disappointment. But yeah, this is scarily accurate. I find it hard to be introspective at times and sometimes need something to be said or discussed for me to realise it within my own personality, so this whole quiz is a fantastic tool to use to understand oneself better.