INFJ Personality (“The Advocate”)

The INFJ personality type is very rare, making up less than one percent of the population, but they nonetheless leave their mark on the world. As Diplomats, they have an inborn sense of idealism and morality, but what sets them apart is the accompanying Judging (J) trait – INFJs are not idle dreamers, but people capable of taking concrete steps to realize their goals and make a lasting positive impact.

INFJs tend to see helping others as their purpose in life, but while people with this personality type can be found engaging rescue efforts and doing charity work, their real passion is to get to the heart of the issue so that people need not be rescued at all.
INFJ personality

Help Me Help You

INFJs indeed share a unique combination of traits: though soft-spoken, they have very strong opinions and will fight tirelessly for an idea they believe in. They are decisive and strong-willed, but will rarely use that energy for personal gain – INFJs will act with creativity, imagination, conviction and sensitivity not to create advantage, but to create balance. Egalitarianism and karma are very attractive ideas to INFJs, and they tend to believe that nothing would help the world so much as using love and compassion to soften the hearts of tyrants.

Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness.

Martin Luther King

INFJs find it easy to make connections with others, and have a talent for warm, sensitive language, speaking in human terms, rather than with pure logic and fact. It makes sense that their friends and colleagues will come to think of them as quiet Extraverted types, but they would all do well to remember that INFJs need time alone to decompress and recharge, and to not become too alarmed when they suddenly withdraw. INFJs take great care of other’s feelings, and they expect the favor to be returned – sometimes that means giving them the space they need for a few days.

Live to Fight Another Day

Really though, it is most important for INFJs to remember to take care of themselves. The passion of their convictions is perfectly capable of carrying them past their breaking point and if their zeal gets out of hand, they can find themselves exhausted, unhealthy and stressed. This becomes especially apparent when INFJs find themselves up against conflict and criticism – their sensitivity forces them to do everything they can to evade these seemingly personal attacks, but when the circumstances are unavoidable, they can fight back in highly irrational, unhelpful ways.

To INFJs, the world is a place full of inequity – but it doesn’t have to be. No other personality type is better suited to create a movement to right a wrong, no matter how big or small. INFJs just need to remember that while they’re busy taking care of the world, they need to take care of themselves, too.

Advocates You May Know

3 years ago
My husband certainly thinks I'm extra special. He makes it a point to tell me every time someone comments about how lucky he is and what a wonderful person I am.
3 years ago
Is it my imagination or do NF's comment a lot more than the other types? I'm an INFJ too btw :)
3 years ago
Very true! I always look at the comment sections of videos, blogs, stories, etc. that I am viewing, and usually write something down.
Jane Bender
3 years ago
It's because we're only 1% of the population... We all thought we were weird and alone. We just found out we weren't. The comment section is our celebration time--you know, since we're all introverts.
3 years ago
We've got a very rare personality type (1 % of the world's population, I think I read somewhere?) and I think that makes many of us feel like reaching out to our fellow INFJ's because they might understand us the best - like we feel no one else (or very, very few at best) really, truly does. We comment, reach out, because even though we're said to understand others very well, we feel somewhat alone, because none understands us back. Agree/disagree?
3 years ago
Well, we are supposed to be good at writing down our thoughts, so yeah, I guess that would make sense.
3 years ago
So very very true. I told my parents and they said that's me to a tee. And yes, it does kinda make me feel special. :)
3 years ago
I'm amazed by the accuracy! Troubled my heart and mind to know about the "turbulent" aspect of my personality-yet it makes perfect sense. I've felt very "misunderstood" my whole life. Now I understand why.
Wayne Graham
3 years ago
I think this described me pretty .much, get the time to decompress and recharge, this is a confirmation that I'm odd,(unique), I'm comfortable that I'm. Lol
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