ENTJ personalities seek two main things in their friendships – inspiration and personal growth. Unlike many other types, they do not really need much emotional support or reassurance. However, ENTJs relish the idea of engaging in deep, meaningful discussions with close friends. People with this personality type are very good at noticing opportunities for learning and development – and they always try to encourage their friends to participate as well.
Generally, ENTJs pay a lot of attention to their friendships. It is not always easy to be an ENTJ’s friend as people with this personality type tend to have a very strong willpower and are also likely to be very smart, argumentative and critical. Not everyone can withstand an argument with them – and this is exactly why ENTJs respect and value friends who are able to hold their ground. That being said, ENTJ personalities do not understand nor respect emotional arguments and appeals. They are very rational individuals and can only accept a different opinion if it is supported by logic and reason.
Naturally, ENTJ friends may find it quite difficult to support other people on an emotional level. Dealing with feelings is certainly not their strongest suit and they are likely to try to avoid emotionally charged situations. ENTJs enjoy challenging their friends and questioning their conclusions, which is usually the opposite of being sensitive – and not many personality types can cope with this. Feeling (F) types are especially vulnerable to criticism and tend to take it very personally.
As ENTJs tend to put growth and personal development above everything else when it comes to friends and friendships, it is quite doubtful that they will pursue relationships that do not offer such opportunities. ENTJ personalities are drawn towards other intuitive (N) types as such friendships give them a chance to brainstorm and theorize about things they consider important. Sensing (S) personalities, being more practical and down-to-earth, may find it difficult to understand the point of those discussions.